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was about to jump in with advice, but then realised I still have a box of my ex’s stuff, so any advice I give is going to make realise the homework I still don’t want to do. Ok, for us both…

Imagine you were giving advice to someone else (easy for me to do) and realise the relationship ended, and it ended for a reason. If, and its a big if, you got back together, you would really want to be starting a new relationship yeah? as the last one didn’t work ( oh the hurts to hear )

So if you hold on to that stuff, then you block a new relationship, even if it was with the same person, they have changed since and so have you. If you haven’t then why would it work when it didn’t last time.

the past is past. Grieve and then cherish the times you shared, and the person they helped you become. Part of who you are is due to the time you shared, and for them also.

Things end, and if you act like its the universe picking on you, then your being stupid.

As a last resort.. who d oyou think is more likely to win him back, the crying girl filled with the past, or the happening happy planning doing dating spunk?

“as the last one didn’t work” I take that back, it did work for a long time, but then it stopped.

Hey, stupid part of the brain that won’t move on…. MOVE ON!

As of now, move on.
Go out with friends/family and do things that make you happy. Put him in the back of your mind. If things are suppose to work out, they will.

I think if it was a “clean” break up, i would have moved on long ago. The fact that im clinging on to it is bec’ i couldn’t believe that he didnt love me at all. I felt cheated, lied to after ive wasted so much love on him. I felt used, for sure! And i’ve lost so much opportunities cos of him..i was too in love to see other stuff.

Anonymous wrote:
I think if it was a “clean” break up, i would have moved on long ago. The fact that im clinging on to it is bec’ i couldn’t believe that he didnt love me at all. I felt cheated, lied to after ive wasted so much love on him. I felt used, for sure! And i’ve lost so much opportunities cos of him..i was too in love to see other stuff.

I went through the same thing in my last realtionship. It was on and off for almost 6 years. I ‘gave up’ a lot of friends and opportuinities because I loved him. My guy lied a lot and I think even cheated, although I have no exact proof.
It’s really hard, I agree with you. My heart still aches constantly (then again, my breakup wasn’t too long ago) I now feel like the whole relationship was a lie. I have so many emotions going on towards the whole thing, it’s overwhelming. All in all though, he treated me bad ..and although I know I am not perfect, I do not think I deserved that.

Just keeep reminding youself that he wasn’t good enough for you. He didn’t treat you right and that you *can* and *will* find someone who respects and loves you.

As for his things, you don’t have to get rid of them ..but put them in a box far away, or give them back.

♥ tiffany! wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think if it was a “clean” break up, i would have moved on long ago. The fact that im clinging on to it is bec’ i couldn’t believe that he didnt love me at all. I felt cheated, lied to after ive wasted so much love on him. I felt used, for sure! And i’ve lost so much opportunities cos of him..i was too in love to see other stuff.

I went through the same thing in my last realtionship. It was on and off for almost 6 years. I ‘gave up’ a lot of friends and opportuinities because I loved him. My guy lied a lot and I think even cheated, although I have no exact proof.
It’s really hard, I agree with you. My heart still aches constantly (then again, my breakup wasn’t too long ago) I now feel like the whole relationship was a lie. I have so many emotions going on towards the whole thing, it’s overwhelming. All in all though, he treated me bad ..and although I know I am not perfect, I do not think I deserved that.

Just keeep reminding youself that he wasn’t good enough for you. He didn’t treat you right and that you *can* and *will* find someone who respects and loves you.

As for his things, you don’t have to get rid of them ..but put them in a box far away, or give them back.

Yes i will keep the things away. I mean how could he said he loved me and turn around and say he didnt at all. He typed offline messages to me and broke up with me. That was it. He didnt even want to talk to me…well, i managed to get him to talk to me after much begging (i regret this)…he said he was never in love and didnt want to lie anymore…so, yes this broke me…still hurts. Yes, i hate and love him lol…and i hope someone will come soon.

that someone might be you…

Begging… it’s tough looking back and seeing how much you were willign to do to get information and closure. Well, at least you can always know “I tried my hardest”