guy help: A guy asked me out and i said no.

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A guy asked me out and i said no.

Was that bit chy of me? Tho i think its better then saying yes without actually having feelings for him i feel horrible, cos i caused him pain. And he probably feels worse…ugh

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Jesermay 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (2 minutes after post)

I think its only fair that you said no to someone of which you have no feelings for. You have no reason to feel bad, and for him life goes on.

Help me with: I have a friend Georgia who I really like.

Anonymous #
12 months ago (3 minutes after post)

he’s my friend, has been for two years and now im worried hel never talk to me again

Jesermay 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Ohh, Well I’m sure you can work it out with him. Just treat him nicely as normal, just be a bit more sensitive but make it clear you don’t want to be with him.

Help me with: I have a friend Georgia who I really like.

Anonymous #
12 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Won’t it be awkward now? I dont want to avoid him he’s a great friend, tho he might be avoiding me now.. and i feel so guilty..

Jesermay 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Remember you have nothing to feel guilty about, you told him the truth. Surely this should make your friendship stronger if you two can get past this. Maybe you should meet up with him for a cup of coffee or for lunch and tell him how you feel and work things out.

Help me with: I have a friend Georgia who I really like.

Anonymous #
12 months ago (9 minutes after post)

we have tournaments together, so il see him in two weeks.. that im sure of.. and i dont think he will, he didnt even reply to my last text..

Jesermay 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Well, Leave it a few weeks for it to calm down. Then try to have a civil conversation with him. I’m sure he will come to his senses.

Help me with: I have a friend Georgia who I really like.

Anonymous #
12 months ago (13 minutes after post)

i hope so.. thanks so much

Jesermay 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (14 minutes after post)

No problem, Good Luck.

Help me with: I have a friend Georgia who I really like.

Commander Ikari 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (15 minutes after post)

better then to have said yes and had an awkward loveless relationship.

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Jesermay 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Commander Ikari wrote:
better then to have said yes and had an awkward loveless relationship.

No it wouldnt.

Help me with: I have a friend Georgia who I really like.

Commander Ikari 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Jesermay wrote:

Commander Ikari wrote:
better then to have said yes and had an awkward loveless relationship.
No it wouldnt.

Reread what I said.

It means it is a good thing she said no.

Help me with: You’re a rich girl, and you’ve gone too far

Jesermay 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Commander Ikari wrote:

Jesermay wrote:

Commander Ikari wrote:
better then to have said yes and had an awkward loveless relationship.
No it wouldnt.
Reread what I said.It means it is a good thing she said no.

Ahh sorry I was skim reading.

Help me with: I have a friend Georgia who I really like.

Jesermay 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (21 minutes after post)

Commander Ikari wrote:
better then to have said yes and had an awkward loveless relationship.

Agreed. :D

Help me with: I have a friend Georgia who I really like.

Jesermay 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (22 minutes after post)

Right I’m off this topic now going off to help someone else!

Help me with: I have a friend Georgia who I really like.

Anonymous #
12 months ago (26 minutes after post)

thank you!

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (32 minutes after post)

You did the right thing.
It’s better to have polietly said no rather to say yes and have him assume you have feelings for him. :)

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yomam #
An Unknown Location | 7 months ago (4 months, 4 weeks after post)

i hate that. guys are so stupid! I just avoid my ex-friend now and haven’t talked to him since. Works for me!

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chookin_ro #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (5 months after post)

yeh i have this sort of guy friend and he asked me out and i said no and its been like 2 years since. he is still acting all awkward around me and i feel really self conscious around him. he is a cool guy and i want to be friends but whenever i try to talk to him he just tries to find a distraction. im really shy and i dont know what to do. i have no idea what to talk about.

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Anonymous #
6 months, 3 weeks ago (5 months after post)

that’s happened to me too much with 4 guy friends of mine and i feel like i’m losing all my guy friends cos of it.. it gets awkward doesn’t it?

And they don’t get that i like being single! GAH. and i am bi, and i’m not looking for a guy right now, is that so wrong?

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