friends help: I must be a pretty sad person if I have a post that has been up for months and no one responded to my post. - Help.com

sometimes you just need to put yourself first. you can’t take care of others if you aren’t taken care of. (feel you on the christmas present thing)

remember when your family asks you for money that its okay not to have it. they have the same right to get multiple jobs as you do.

Yeah, you are not alone in that feeling you know. I have no friends either, only the ones I make here. I Agree with berta, put yourself first. You are neglecting yourself. You are a good person but not with yourself, be a good person first with yourself then with others. Take care.

it is possible that the last post just was at the wrong time for the right people to answer. don’t think it has to do with less worth, it may have came up at the same time or just before 10 other posts and it just got moved to quickly for people to see that had a good answer for your problem.

That’s a hard situation. I wish you the best of luck, and I believe the only reason people didn’t respond the first time is because they didn’t have advice. I certainly don’t. Just know that you ARE a good person, and you DO deserve to be happy.

ahhh..Berta’s words ring true - you must put yourself first sometimes.

A bit of aged wisdom I have learned along the way from my elders and the good folks here on Help… You can’t take care of others unless you take care of yourself. Ever been on a plane - they will tell you to apply your oxygen mask first and then assist those around you.

Christmas - so many are feeling the same way, do what you can - there is alot in the saying it’s not the gift it’s the love behind it.

Family - many people are self absorbed and unfortunately those who are caring get reeled in, it’s a choice to take the bait. If you are a kind and caring soul, the hook will always find you.

Friends - ahhh, they are our ‘chosen family’ chose wisely - it is not the number of friends but the quality of the friendship that is worth it’s weight in gold.

Be true to yourself, do what makes you happy, smile and never give up!

Probably all information you have been given before and maybe gave to others…but in the end they really are the basic steps to being content.

Content is a step towards happiness…happiness is a step towards exhuberence!

All will elude from time to time, it’s life. Just stay focused and always return to that which puts a smile on your face.

Happy Holidays!

Yes, it must have been the timing on your post - don’t let it bother you. Another thing that makes your posts more visable is to help others on their posts because then your post will show up underneath your name on those replies.

I know people have to work to live just as I do, but you work three jobs. It sounds like you take no special time for yourself. If you’re going to work toward a goal anyone will tell you that when you gain an achievement, even if it’s just a tiny one, you should pat yourself on the back for it, reward yourself, you deserve it.

I have the same problem with getting myself into debt over and over again. I just finally figured out that I’m trying to fill a void in my life with physical things. I think it probably has to do with the fact that my parents got divorced when I was 9. My mom remarried an alchoholic who sexually abused me for years. I thought I could move in with my dad, but he committed suicide when I was a freshman in high school. I then became a teen mom because I wanted a way out.
Now I’m in my late twenties, married with 3 more children, but happy. You can come out of any situation life puts you in. Just have faith in God and put your life in his hands. Figure out what void your trying to fill and deal with it. I wish you the best of luck! I’ll pray for you.

File Bancrutcy if you can and sweep your debts away and take better care of yourself and be kinder to yourself and don’t get back into any debt you cannot manage on your own.
“Aleman & Macey Attorney’s can help you out.
They do have a website as well.
Try it out and do for your self and smile things could be worse .
God Bless you and Merry Christmas.

Going bankrupt should be a last resort…be sure to examine all the pro’s and con’s of such a choice. I won’t say don’t do it, but be sure you examine all the ramifications of such a choice.

http://www.ModestNeeds.org
go there and apply and they will help/
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I Donate to them the little I can to try and help people every month and they will help you as well.