life help: I’m still breaking… - Help.com

sorry to hear you are having a bad day, month. would you like to talk about it

well i hope it gets better and helps you with a better outlook that life is too short to feel sorry for yourself, there is too much to experience in creating good memories that want you to look forward to a new day to new things

Hey there. We haven’t talked before, but I read some of you other replies on postings here, and you have a lot of great things to say. You’ve done a lot to help other people, and I hope you get some satisfaction out of it. Here’s an excerpt from a reply you wrote recently that was really, really good advice:

Envision your ideal life, your dream life. The best way to do this is one day in this life, where you wake up, what sounds you hear when you wake, what’s the weather like, where are you, what’s outside, what is your place like, are you alone, who if anyone or what type of person/animal/thing do you share your bed with, what will you eat for breakfast, how did you pay for it, or did you grow it. What will you do with your day, where do you work, do you work, do you own a car and if so what kind of car, what do you want to do with this dream day of yours… I’m sure you see where I’m going with it, get a crisp clear picture of it, so much so that you smell the air as you wake, you feel how you would feel waking to that environment. I can’t stress enough how important it is to really think this through.

Then look at your life now, what needs to change to convert it into your dream life? Lay it out step by step, one small piece at a time, how are you going to realistically accomplish this, and how long will it take. Once you have your plan, start, straight away, and just - keep - doing it no matter what, remind yourself why if needs be… And then your dream is no longer a dream, it’s a plan, in my opinion you have half the battle won at this stage. Let nothing stand in your way.

Obviously, nothing in life goes as planned, but we need these plans, and the better your plan the closer your end result will be to your dream, of course it’s a flexible plan.

Congratulations on winning the alcohol abuse battle - that is NOT an easy road, and you have accomplished something you should be very proud of.

So don’t you see that you have value to other people? Your life is not futile because of that.

Regarding being unhappy, that’s a tough one. Tricky wrote something that I thought was good along those lines (how to be happy), which I’ve copied below. I did edit it a bit (hope he doesn’t mind!). See what you think about it:

- Don’t compare yourself with others
because you are unique.

- Don’t be self centered;
everybody is as important as you.

- Never Self Pity;
there is always somebody who has it worse.

- Never forget the free gifts you’ve been given,
And learn to enjoy the beauty of this world.

- Know that life is not fair,
Accept that it is the truth.

- Accept that some problems will never fade away and
That a plan never goes exactly as planned.

- Fear not yourself
For that is the source of your truth

- We are meant to make mistakes
You are not perfect and you will never be.

- Remember every new problem is a new opportunity to learn;
Instead of complaining, do something about it.

- When everybody is gone and you are alone,
Do not be lonely you have yourself.

- Don’t expect anybody to come and pull you up,
but learn to push yourself up.

- The past is dead and the future may never exist;
You only have the present.

- Time passes , sad or happy -
why choose sadness?

I’m sorry - I really do wish I could do more, but I’m at a loss. For me, the last one on the list about choosing to be happy really does help a lot, but I know it’s not necessarily an easy thing to do.

its a state that cannot be talked, or motivated out of.

its an understanding of the world, and it keeps you from changing. it restrains you from moving forward, advancing.

now i fall on my knees and realize i cant do this.
im not strong enough to find a way out.

and i cry out to the lord, and surprisingly, i know that i get a reply.

this is what i needed. without this, i would bumble on my happy way. i would be no different than other people who think they are something.
i would be ARROGANT thinking “look at what i have, what ive done to get here.”

and when i hit the floor, i realize that im not good enough, not alone.
but i feel myself being lifted up. he wont let me give up here.

i have some things that i MUST do.

i have to change the way im living, and though i cannot do it alone, i will NOT give up. because he wont give up on me. this is why i love my god so much.
he wont give up on me.

we shall see where this goes. ill try my best.

Ever tried professional help?

And what happened?

To who exactly did you go?

And one thing, which are things that are ruining your life? could you name them?

*hugglleesss* (idk what else to say, i hope you feel stronger soon, we’re all here for you)
dollyx♥x

Then what’s wrong?

Well, you seem someone who can think of things carefully…
You should do that….what would you like to be, what do you have, what did you want from your life, your true passions…all those things that add meaning to life, and also think about the things that take the meaning from it..

Thanks for coming back to let us know how you’re doing - it’s great to hear you are better. Yay!!