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Well now we have two of the same post…lol

Well. Well. Well.
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Ask her to your house, take a walk on a nice day in the park.
Stop abruptly, stare into her eyes…
Tell her what to meant by that card.
Tell her you want to be her better guy.
&& let everything else take it’s course?

:D Just a thought.

Enough with the flirting, just tell her how you feel. She sounds like she likes you too!

Id say if she’s in a relationship and now knows your feelings, what she’s feeling is a bit torn and undecided what to do :-)

littlenick wrote:
Enough with the flirting, just tell her how you feel. She sounds like she likes you too!

yah, that..

I think it is up to the girl to choose the time to break from her already existing friendship. Before she commits to you.
It looks like you are trying purposely to break them up. You say the boyfriend is super controling. Doesn’t look like he has much control over what she and you are doing.

hmmmm…I think she might like you ;)
But it’s probably going to be hard for her to get out of her current relationship.
Why don’t you just tell her?
If you serenade her, you should sing “let me love you” by Mario

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Tell her how you feel without her feeling obligated to choose between being with you or not being your friend (you probably won’t put her in that situation, but I’ve known people in your situation who’ve made it seem like that without knowing it)
Good luck!

I am a straight shooter .when it comes to the nitty gritty i want to know where I’m standing and what her Intentions are .No good interfering if she still has a Boyfriend…

i think she wants to be with you but maybe she is scared to let go of the other guy you treat her better so y wouldnt she want to be with you? just ask her if you guys can be more then friends

Honestly in my opinion, if you respected this young woman at all you would not have flirted so heavily with her considering the fact that she is in a relationship. This is not something a man with integrity does. If she comes to you then you let her know since she’s in a relationship you cannot be part of her fantasy - friend yes, fantasy no (and this is you place right now - her fantasy) She is wishing her boyfriend were more like you… keyword on Boyfriend (and that’s NOT you). Stop your games with her. Be her friend when she needs a friend… but I agree with Thep that you are trying to break them up, and I think you should stop that. That is her choice and her’s alone.

Has she ever told you she wishes she could break up with him so she could be with someone like you?

One thing you haven’t come out and said, or maybe I missed it… do you WANT to be her boyfriend? Her one and only?

I mean your actions say that is what you want. But are you just really good friend that does not what to see her get hurt? ’cause I got to tell you… a real good friend will let perhaps warn her… then let her get hurt, and be there to help her move forward. But as I say, your actions of trying to get them to break up speak to a larger problem. And it can become very messy for you if you continue.

as her best friend, there is not going to be many guys that will meet with your approval…. no one knows her like you do. But that is not to say they couldn’t. If you want to be her boyfriend… wait until she breaks up with this guy… she will eventually… you don’t have to help that. Then when she does that is when it will be your turn… that is when you tell her your feelings

UNLESS….

she comes to you before breaking up with him. If she confides special feelings for you while she is dating him… it is OK then to tell her how you feel… BUT you must still respect her current relationship. She’s a flirt… sorta plays a few games… so you cannot be sure of anything. Only if she flat out tells you something (or if she is single) do you have the right to tell her how you feel.

Of course all of this is my own personal opinion. This is based on how I would respond to a man of integrity and honor. An old fashioned perspective? Probably, but I’m an old fashioned guy.

simple you will never know if you will never be honest with her and tell her how you feel , that will break down every wall that is keeping you from the truth and you dserve to know the truth , tell her how you feel, if she feels the same gr8 , if she doesnt move on and find somebody you loves you…

Just tell her how you feel.

Would tell her how you feel, and then, tell her that you will give her the space she needs to sort out her feeling’s! Whatever she decides, respect that!

And, personally, don’t think you stepped over the line, as the other guy must not be treating her right or she would not have wanted to be with you that night.

Tell her how you feel but then back off and don’t be flirty or make gestures or keep on telling her how you feel. Let her decide with no pressure from you at all.

when you say that she is just a flirt, i am starting to think that you should be very thoughtful about how you go on from here. one thing, as everyone here has pointed out, she hasn’t left her boyfriend. so keep this in mind: she might not want to. you say that she consistently dates his type of guy, so maybe that really is the kind of guy she likes for boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. you’re a really good friend to her, but you say that she has never told you that she wants to break up with her boyfriend so she can be with you.

because of your feelings for her, you may be interpreting her actions in the way you want them to mean. she might be having trouble with her boyfriend, as in he might be annoying, or just not romantic or affectionate enough, so she comes to you for that - with the hand-holding, the dancing, and even the complaining. if she sees you as only a best friend, then the complaining could be just a way for her to express her frustration at her boyfriend’s annoying habits, not real indications that she wants to leave him.

Vern wrote:
Okay…I see. But even though she has a boyfriend, why would she flirt with me back? Or is it just that because of the fact we are good friends she’s just more comfortable around me? She is just a big flirt with guys in general by the way..

sometimes, flirting is just something fun to do, not a real sign that people want to enter into a relationship. you might want to consider that, for this girl, the actions between the two of you might not even be flirting at all, just friendly affection. the way i behave around my close male friends could many times be interpreted as flirting or as things only people in bf/gf relationships would do, but for me it’s just a way of showing affection to people who matter to me. i do love my friends and i tell them that (to both my female and male friends), but it doesn’t mean that i want to date them. and the fact that i now have and love my boyfriend does not change how i act with my other friends (male or otherwise).

so do be careful and keep a level head about this, or you might end up with a broken heart. you need to talk to her about this so you can get a straight answer. tell her how you feel about her and ask if she feels the same way.

if she feels the same way, then you need to determine if she will be willing to break up with her boyfriend for you. if she is, then she should do it, and spare him the cruelty of leading him on when her affections are with someone else. if she isn’t willing to leave her boyfriend, even though she does share your feelings, then i really think you should back away from this one. there is nothing that ruins relationships more than an undecided lover. if you really do love her even then, you should tell her that you will let her make her own decision, that you will wait, but you will not wait forever. and tell her that since you have shown her that for her your heart is open, SHE needs to come to YOU. you’ve done all you can at this point.

if she does not feel the same way, then you need to be able to accept the fact that no matter what you do, her feelings for you might never change. you might always just be the best friend. if you’re okay with that, then you need to unfocus, and open your heart for other people as well, but stay good friends with this girl, since you obviously mean alot to each other. if you’re not okay with just being her best friend, then you need to separate yourself from her and learn to forgive and forget, because staying near her if you cannot reconcile your feelings will only hurt both of you.

ASK HOW SHE FEELS!!!!!
I’m sure if she is giving you this much attention, she likes you enough that she wants you.

Same old story.. She is confused.. Dunno a sh*t about how she really feels.. Just be careful.. I’ve been in the same situation as u - and it is torture.. Best advise would be, that u should try not to fall too much in love with her right now.. And yeah - I wanna bet she cant give u a clear answer if u ask about her how she feels.

.. And she will come to u, if she wants u.

well have you asked her?

Now she is free, now you can tell her how YOU feel. I think to ask her how she feels is too soon, unless she broke up hoping to get with you. Just tell her how you feel about her… how the best relationships are friendships too. That you want to move forward into a deeper more meaningful friendship with her. Tell her your feelings… don’t put her on the spot for hers - she may volunteer them anyway. Then wait a few days… see what happens.

i agree with Richard, you should tell her how you feel, i think she already knows and is hoping for you to tell her. ask her out for a coffee and tell her how you feel.

Give her some time..

Adrenaline! wrote:
Give her some time..

time indeed, but do tell her eventually, before its to late. dont let the opertunity pass.