Family help: How can I feel like that “cool, hip, gorgeous” older cousin to my 12 year old cousin? - Help.com

This will sound stupid, but the best way is to NOT spend your time planning on how you can make every move “cool”. Because the second you do that, you’re not cool. You say that you think you’re fun to be around, a cool cousin, a role model. You have to not only think but KNOW. When you do that, and ACT that way instead of crawling in the corner, or feeling jealous/awkward you won’t be able to get her to stop calling you to take her shopping. Cool, Hip, etc. is undefinable. Don’t chase it. Be it. (Wow… i sound like someone trying to sell shoes. I assure you I’m not)

you think your fun to be around n you think your cool but you feel your not cool enough? is that it? because you cant make someone think your cool they will judge you on what they think is cool not what u think is cool just be there for her i know the kids in my famliy love me but idk if they think im cool but idc cause as long as they can come talk to me about any thing im fine

hmm. don’t focus on others. just focus on yourself and becoming comfortable with who you are.

Find your weak spots and work on them.

Like maybe losing weight?

But the only way to be cool, is to fully accept yourself.

And think highly of yourself & be generous enough to share that feeling

with everyone else. You don’t necessarily have to be the ‘cool cousin’.

You could just be a good mentor and friend to her. :)

definitely just be yourself. if you take the time worrying about what to say to make you seem cool, it’ll just make you look the opposite of cool. just be yourself, that’s who you are, nothing should make you want to change. you are you, love who you are and she will too.