marriage help: I have a wife that goes out from 11pm til 330a every night and - Help.com

Get her to go with you to couple’s counseling. This sounds very serious. She’s going through something bad. It’s bad that she can’t talk to you about it. Do you two fight a lot? Did you guy’s marry young? Are you controling?

Well… why can’t she?

I mean, if she wants to, who are you to tell her not to? It’s her life, not yours.

Have you talked to her about it? You need to explain how you feel about all this and ask her why she is doing it.

People need escapes and obviously she has found one. Drugs are dangerous, you know this and they can be fatal depending on what it is. If it’s just weed then you might not need to be quite so worried but I can see why you are.

Just talk to her…Or maybe suggest going out with her? Not following her but actually going out with her and see what she is doing…You don’t have to smoke and do drugs of course.

4 and a halve hours,what would she be doing i wonder?Is she getting dressed up nice?
Or just casual? Does she put on a lot of Perfume?Why not get some one to follow her! What she’s doing in that time i wonder?Well i pretend I’m a sleep and after she is gone i get my selves dressed up as a Women and follow her.High Feels a wig ,i reckon you look OK as a women.Try to find out what she is up to.maybe she stands on a Corner as a you know i don’t want to hurt you but, as a Hooker…

Wow, well there could be so many different things going on here.
From the really bad things, drugs and prostitution, to some really
innocent things. Like maybe she just really loves the night time.
Loves being out in it.
When you guys talk, does she ever tell you that she does NOT want you to be with her? Or does she get really upset if you mention maybe going out with her?
If yes, well then, yeah I see a problem.
Have you offered to go with her?
Or have you given her the thing about “I have to be up early to go to work.” “I’m too tired”.
If that is the case, well she does have the right, you know.
I used to be out every night all night.
I just loved the feel of the night.
But I was always alone. Always.
And my boyfriend DID have me followed.
Not a good move, really.
I mean unless you are concerned for her safety.
But just to follow her to get some kind of information about what she is doing? ermmm…..nah.
I found out that I was being tailed. So I walked into a convenience store and waited.
Sure enough, here came the guy.
I pretended to be looking for something.
I walked right up next to him and said hello.
LOL he jumped out of his skin…….priceless!
Two county police officers that I am good friends with just happened to come in to the store, so I knew I was safe.
I told them what was going on and they followed him out to his car.
He started spilling his story right there.
My boyfriend had him following me.
Well, that was IT for that boyfriend.
See, there was a “no trust” issue here.
And if your wife discovers that you are having her followed, your marriage will be toast anyway.
So, instead of coming to a help site and asking for advice, talk to your wife. It is vital!
Who knows? She may want you there, too.
Don’t be so quick to jump to the the worst conclusions.
Could she may be working an honest part time job to help make some money? You didn’t mention. Do you two have any kids?
Well, whatever the case, I sure do wish you the best of luck with this.
Just take it easy, alright?
Edie

wow, that’s tough. talk to her about it or see if you can go with her. or ask her to be honest and tell you what she’s doing when she goes out.