Love help: I’ve been very depressed recently, I haven’t gone out the house since Tuesday (also as I’ve been ill with the flu).

tallulah

I’ve been very depressed recently, I haven’t gone out the house since Tuesday (also as I’ve been ill with the flu).

I have clinical depression and my boyfriend has always been very supportive as I met him in treatment and understand eachother in that way. We have been together for a long time and I thought our love for eachother was indisputable, he’s 26 and he told me I was the one - and after an accident and a negative pregnancy test he was disappointed and we decided we wanted to have a child in a year or two. All his words were ‘you’re the one, I love you to the core’. Today he woke up and said ‘I want a week apart, no talking - I love you and want to be with you but I need some time to myself’ we live together but technically its his flat so I had to go, I was confused and upset and annoyed it was such short notice and had to find somewhere to go. I was perhaps not as gracious in going as I could have been and he just went ‘I don’t think we should be together, I love you but I don’t think we should be together’ We’ve argued obviously in the past but our love is so strong, he has never said anything like that before. But then in about 5 mins said he didn’t mean it and that he just needed this week. I agreed but was very confused and I feel very vunerable. We then made love he wanted to show me how much ‘he’s in love with me and is willing to make the relationship work’. I’m now at my aunts so confused, paranoid that he’ll decide he doesn’t want to be with him anymore. I feel so much pain, I’ve supported him so much - he’s an alcholic with an anxiety disorder and depression and I accepted and loved all of him, I want him to have my children, he says not to worryand at the end of the week he’ll have missed me like hell and he just wants tosee the woods from the trees. But he threatened leaving me, I feel sick with pain lonliness and fear.

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

I’m sorry. That’s rough. Men! Who can undertand them? And they say women are the moody ones! I’m not really sure what to tell you. You’ll just have to wait it out and see what happens. I know that’s not what you want to hear. It’s so difficult to wait. Waiting for something like this is the worst! If he loves you, wants to have children with you and says you are the one, I don’t know what his problem is then. He wouldn’t send you away from him.

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

If he knows what buttons to push to get you riled up, he will keep on pushing them. I would just let him have his week and see what happens the following week. Sounds like he needs you more than you need him. But you’re the one with the anxiety of breaking up and he is trying to use that against you. You should just relax and try to see if you can find another permanent place to stay. But, it should be YOUR place and not his. I think he is just making you feel bad that it’s his flat and he wants you to know that he is in control in that department.

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gya 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 45 minutes after post)

Did you realized he loves you, still? but, the point may be he’s tired, not of you, but about everything you, guys are going through. But now, how else can be so helpfull to you as he is? I now a man, and he acrries me through everything i do, just with love and patience. His name is jesus; and he’s trying to take lost cases as you may feel you are, right now; and make you to understand that he made you, and he can do it again, those things you’d lost, he will give it back to you, not only the job, but the payment and the helth to enjoy it, with the one you love to.

God bless you.

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chev.jame 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (4 hours, 14 minutes after post)

Talk is cheap. You have to look at actions.

Based upon what you told us about your boyfriend, it would appear that he has quite a few issues to resolve . . . and the LAST thing the two of you need right now is a baby.

Please don’t look at a boyfriend as a “messiah.” If you do, you will be disappointed each and every time.

Lastly, it’s just not smart to make babies with someone you’re not married to.

Take a step back, don’t think of yourself as someone who HAS to have a boyfriend, and develop your own goals. You need to be a complete person in your own right before entering into a relationship.

I think you are, in a very real sense, very lucky. You could have very easily become a single parent. Use this time to do some real introspection, and do NOT think you have to have this guy or any other guy.

I wish you the very best!

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