Thought help: Hey, thought I’d post this and see if there is anyone who has any problems or issues they want to chat about. - Help.com

niggerhating66 wrote:
this isnt a question

No it’s a kind offer. :S

I have a problem.. I’m just a normal hard working guy and everyone tells me I’m nice with a great attitude, I not some weight room muscle bound dude with no brain, I’m told I look good, I am actually very well educated, have a great job, and it seems like everyone I meet is a user or wacked out in the head or just into so much drama I can’t stand it.. I’m not a party animal, I drink very little actually, though I am a light smoker. So what’s up with the women in the world today?

I guess maybe the second may be correct. I don’t look, I just let it happen, I don’t go to bars unless it’s with friends to watch a sporting event.

Yea.. and until then I just deal with it? It gets depressing spending Friday night at home watching the tube, (which I detest, btw), my friends all try to hook me up with a friend of a friend they think is nice but it never works out.

I’m don’t think I’m a demanding person, I’m a little shy but I can actually hold a conversation and keep it interesting. I’m not someone that people consider strange in any way, so how do I meet sensible people that actually have a goal beyond happy hour on Friday? And please don’t tell me the E-harmony c**p like everyone else does.

I tried the one called singles event planner and the first girl I spoke to asked if I wanted to leave and go to her place. I was there for 30 minutes and she was already toasted on martinis, pardon me but my ideal evening is not making out with someone who is trashed and cant pronounce maseratti without a slur.

Do people consume all this alcohol so they wont remember their problems or what and who they did the night before?

I just completed my degree a year and a half ago, though I’m not on my twenties any longer, I’ve taken dive classes recently, boaing courses, I’m getting ready for a trip to boston to take a few classes linked to my degree and I’ll be there for a couple of weeks.
Any other ideas? Maybe my standards are too high, but I don’t really think they are.

I’m not shallow, at least I have never been called that. I don’t expect perfection or classic beauty. I just hope to find a woman that’s beautiful to me, with a beautiful personality.

Do you have single friends that date? Or have they all gotten married? Or even further, have they been seeing the same guy for awhile? Where do they go, where do you and your boyfriend go when you go out. Do you do museums, art shows, ballet, broadway or off broadway shows, comedy clubs, concerts??

I’m sorry if this comes across as more of a rant than anything else. I guess I’m just tired of all the head games everyone seems to get so tied up in.

Maybe I should just take your advice and sit back and hope Ms. Wonderful has a flat tire out front. Then I’ll answer the door look into her eyes as she asks for help and fall deeply in love right, he he. Just kidding, she’ll probably have AAA right?

Thanks for being my sounding board today. It helps to just let it out sometimes, then it doesn’t get me down as much.

No..I think I’ll just continue on as I have to date, I’m always going places anyway. Like you say though, maybe I’m looking too hard. I’ll just let it happen and hope for the best. Have a great day.. and I apologize for taking an hour and a half of it.. Thanks again..

I’ve read them all, did you change something?

Thanks have a nice day..

I feel exactly the same way and I am a woman. So, I think maybe it’s just you haven’t found her yet. I think it’s great you’re so well-rounded. You’re exactly the way you should be. Are you projecting that you’re available? Maybe it’s time to be more deliberate? I’m sure you are, but keep trying. It sounds like you will definitely find someone.

I should clarify- I’m in a relationship, BUT, I did feel this way prior to it, and it’s not very often that I meet even just friends that are non-party people that like the things I do (and yet who are not antisocial/geeky). Sorry. It’s just hard to find that balance sometimes. But it does exist!

Thank you, I suppose I just get a little restless with seeing friends out with someone they care so much for, and I’m just out with a friend because I didn’t want to go alone.

So very very true :)

It’s miserable being single when all around you are far too happy in their own little couple-centered relationship.