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My friends that I grew up with are morally different than I am.
They steal, cheat and lie. I don’t want to be friends with people like that, but I don’t really have many other friends. I feel like if I dismiss them, I’ll be lonely, but if I stay friends with them, it will be false, because I disagree with most things they do. I don’t want to be billy no mates who forgot where he came from, but at the same time, I just don’t like who they are. But they are fun to hang around with. What should I do?
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You are judged by the company you keep.
You can always make new friends, your ethics and morals will make you unhappy being around peopl that that.
thanks, i guess i feel like i’ve missed the boat. i’m 22, is it too old to make new friends?
If you’re with them when they’re stealing, cheating, lying, etc. leave, and only hang out with them when they’re not doing those things. Maybe you could call them on it, but I don’t know how much it would help. If you really can’t stand it, you can make new friends.
If you want to always have the best life possible, hang out with people who are more honest, more successful, more outgoing than you are… and learn from them!
Crappy people drag you down forever. great people boost you up.
Sure your immoral friends are fun. Wait until their immorality gets you in trouble. Then you will see how much that is.
well i’ll give u an example, when obama was elected one sent me really racist jokes about it expecting me to respond laughing. the other night the same guy had a poker tournament in his house and cheated so that his cousin won the pot. and we had all paid 20/30 euro in! nobody said anything cos this guy is a big guy. he also pefereated my ear drum a few weeks ago when he decided to mess throw me to the ground. he also vandalised his sisters boyfriends car because his sister punched his girlfriend. i just couldnt be bothered with all this ****! another of the guys got so fed up with a **** buddy of his that he made up that she said something and tried to turn every1 against her. and these guys are 22, not 15!
thanks jess, linux, libra, littlenick and chev for ur advice, i think i’ll listen
i just feel like i’m better than this ****, you know!
you can stil hang around with them, just dont do the things they do when hay do it.
you have to leave them and do it slowly but quickly. thought: have you ever wondered if the company and the influence of these guys has prevented you from forming new friends that are drastically different because they may like you but know getting to close to you would be getting close tto the friends you are now trying to get rid of oh and you can always make friend no matter the age with every stage/phase/level of life a person usually make a new friend or close acquiantance. you hindering yourself by staying in the same bubble as them. good luck
Just to let you know . . . research has shown that “bad eggs” almost always end up corrupting the “good eggs.” It almost never works in reverse. You need to ditch your unethical, immoral friends before you are caught up in one of their schemes. You can be co-opted by one of them before you know it. And, as Dimmingstar1376 noted, having a circle of bad friends will keep you from forming new friendships.
And, no, it isn’t too late at 22. At 22, you’re just starting!
thanks chev.jame and dimming star. thanks a million for your advice. i feel free now!
i appreciate it big time. i needed to hear that and i agree totally with what you said. i guess i didn’t trust myself enough, but its really helpful to hear you speak sense because i can trust myself now. thanks again, i really appreciate it.
Good! And don’t doubt your “moral compass.” It’s there to keep you from getting “lost”!
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