friends help: I can’t stop cutting myself! - Help.com

heres some suggestions and dont hate yourself it will only make you want to hurt yourself more. i used to cut and i hated myself for it but now im content it changed my life but it prepared me for a lot of things im going through right now by going through that terrible dark time in my life all my problems now that would seem major to people feel minor to me because im healier and happier.

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you need to find a hobby

I used to be a cutter for at least ten years and it’s really a touchy subject. To me, whenever I got upset about something, cutting felt better because it was a way to punish myself… I never saw it as something that people knew about or cared about, I have scars all over on my arms and some were very deep. One day, about 8 years ago, a friend of mine walked in on me with a fresh razor blade and cut myself so deep on my shoulder that my shoulder pretty much split in two… he told me that he couldn’t stand by as I did this to myself because it hurt him too much to see me like that. That was the last time I did it… I realized then that it does affect other people and it’s not just something that I do to feel better. I think about it a lot when I go through a tough time but then I think about what my friend said and I think about my daughter and I don’t give into temptation.

If you ever need somebody to lean on, I will be here for you… I work during the day but I will check every evening… please don’t feel alone because I have been there and it’s very painful but you can make it through, I believe in you… please believe in yourself. If you have any questions, I would be happy to answer them or help in any way. Take care of yourself!

When you feel the urge to “scratch” think about the poor kids in africa who have it way worse!!

same here if you ever wanted to talk about it i mostly go on this website to try and help people that are addicted to cutting and have suicidal thoughts. also be careful cutting numbed me i became a zombie. i swear the worst day in your life is when you wake up and look in the mirror and dont recongnize the person staring back or that youd rather die then live or you dont even remember what it feels like to be happy. dont lose yourself.

Leslie63 wrote:
same here if you ever wanted to talk about it i mostly go on this website to try and help people that are addicted to cutting and have suicidal thoughts. also be careful cutting numbed me i became a zombie. i swear the worst day in your life is when you wake up and look in the mirror and dont recongnize the person staring back or that youd rather die then live or you dont even remember what it feels like to be happy. dont lose yourself.

I am so sorry for that… it’s great that you’re turning something terrible that happened to you into something great by helping other people through their tough times. That is great advise, “don’t lose yourself”!!!

i don’t mean to be ruuuuuude

but i feel so alone here

i’m the only one with an avatar

paigeerocks3 wrote:
well… i have been having suicidal thoughts for the past month, but i know i can never bring myself to do it because once in a while i have moments where i am happpy and feel like nothing bad has happened to me. but what if that happiness never comes back? I am the type of person who loves to live in the past and i can’t bring myself into the future. I am too scared.

I hope that you can focus on those happy times where you feel like nothing bad can happen… I know it’s hard to leave the past behind, live in the present and look to the future but please try to do that as therapy for yourself… maybe you need closure with a person or situation that you never got, maybe confront the person or situation and get the answers that you need or maybe you just need to speak your mind because you never got the chance… whatever it is, I know it will be difficult but it will help you move forward and live for the moment you are in now… and like Leslie63 said, “don’t lose yourself” which happens a lot when the past becomes your present and future. I wish the best for you and I know that you will get through and be ok… you have greatness in you, never forget that!

DaNi♠HaTes♠You wrote:
When you feel the urge to “scratch” think about the poor kids in africa who have it way worse!!

not to be rude but i dont think that is going to help for my when people said that to me it just wanted to make me cut worse but everyone cuts for different reason. it truely is an addiction and as leslie said it numb you it is the worst consequence.

to paigeerocks3: i dont think anyone believes they are going to cut i know i didn’t even though i thought a lot about it before i did it my second time.to avoid going deeper than intended i used to just wawlk around and breathe im in southern ohio and just walking out side will calm me down a little bit so that i can make sure i have control of my blade so many time i failed to calm myself i went farther than intended i almost had to have my friend drive me to the hospital because it wasn’t clotting as soon as i thought it would. do your best to stop and move your blade away from easy access and put like a word searh or sudoko book in its place it helps

not to be rude but i was talking to the poster, not you on that one sweetness

what if when u feel like doing that u listen to music to calm you down or find a nice quiet place to go i love to drinks tea that keeps me calm down when im really angry or just feeling down

my mom lives in the past shes 45 and shes spent most of her life unhappy she cant let go of regret and grudges thats she holds onto. by holding onto the past your like in reverse there is no way you can function normally. life is all about chances the future use to be my biggest fear i still am scared of it but im a huge believer in things happen for a reason. things happen but if you wait long enough you realize why some of those things may have happened to you.

i was the same way too i could not imagine cutting myself it seemed like a sick thing to do. but before i knew it i was holding the blade myself. never give up i know life may seem hard now but those brief moments of happiness you must cherish they can get you through this hard time in your life.

i used to get drunk and ive always thought of doing drugs you want an escape and these things can give someone that. its causing you more pain though

paigeerocks3 wrote:
how do i stop my self from doing it tho? i know that if my parents find out ill be in trouble, and if my friends find out they wont want to be around me.

By removing the objects that do the cutting. Tell someone about it, get there support, do exercise when you feel like cutting.

paigeerocks3 wrote:
ya but who will i tell?ive already hurt one of the most important ppl in my life and i dont wanna hurt anyone else! id rather suffer myself than risk that.

Your friends are there to laugh with you, to talk with you, and to support you in your hour of need. You can’t hurt them with trying to get help.

paigeerocks3 wrote:
ya maybe….. idk. hmph.

Think of your most trustable, reliable, close friend. Tell them, seek their support.

well my mom found out through a friend that promised not to tell anyone. well what really happened was i took some medicine and she called my mom and told her incase i had to go to hospital even though i told her ididnt want her to. i was so out of it i told my mom everything. it was the best thing she could have done for me i will always be thankful for her call because i would have never stopped unless my mom had known.