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Do you believe online Relationships can work?

My mother met someone online, and after months and months they finally met in person. And they really seem happy together.

I used to be skeptical that it could work. Despite being a rather forward-thinking liberal type of person, I just felt that old-fashioned love had to begin face to face. But because of my Mom’s experience I’m reconsidering that. Plus the fact that I’ve met a lot of nice people online.

So do you guys think meeting someone online can be the beginning of a successful in-person relationship?

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angel♥ offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (8 minutes after post)

yeah i do believe they can work. ive never atcually met anyone thats met over the internet and like.. got married and stuff. but ive heard about it a lot and i know its possible.
honestly, some of the best people ive ever “met” have been on the internet. but i hate the fact that most of the time they seem to be across the world from you =/

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Mayor offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 166 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Definitely. I think more so than in person because people tend to open up more on the internet because they feel like they have nothing to lose.

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (36 minutes after post)

angel♥ wrote:
honestly, some of the best people ive ever “met” have been on the internet. but i hate the fact that most of the time they seem to be across the world from you =/

I know exactly what you mean. Why can’t they just be somewhere near?

and Matt, I’ve heard good and bad stories about online relationship. I do they will work. Just hope for the best :D

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (37 minutes after post)

Matt, how old are you?

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Matt... offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Baltimore, MD, US | 12 months ago (39 minutes after post)

I’m 22…too young to think about this deep relationship stuff you think? lol XD

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (40 minutes after post)

I think you’re cute :D
and age doesn’t define our maturity. They’re only numbers, the experience that we’ve been through is what matters.

just in case you’re wondering, i’m 20 :D

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Matt... offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Baltimore, MD, US | 12 months ago (44 minutes after post)

Lol thank you, it’s a flattering picture though, hence why I use it XD

And you’re right it is definitely about maturity. I’ve met very sophisticated mature 15 yr olds, and 40 year olds that act like they’re still in elementary school.

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (44 minutes after post)

i think it depends on the type of person you are, and the person you meet.. who knows, maybe meeting someone online is how you will meet your someone, if you dont already have one..=].

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (45 minutes after post)

im 18!!! ha you guys put your ages and i thought i should put mine…XD

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (46 minutes after post)

Matt… wrote:
Lol thank you, it’s a flattering picture though, hence why I use it XDAnd you’re right it is definitely about maturity. I’ve met very sophisticated mature 15 yr olds, and 40 year olds that act like they’re still in elementary school.

Well, if that’s how you look like, then it is how you look like no matter what pic you use. :D

miss.cari wrote:
im 18!!! ha you guys put your ages and i thought i should put mine…XD

I’m trying to flirt with him.. Haha.. JK :P

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (47 minutes after post)

haha iknow i know..i just felt like puttin my age in..haha but you’re right, he’s very cute.

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (50 minutes after post)

I know!!! haha…

hey Matt,
Are you single?
Why don’t we try to see if online relationship can work or not? :D

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Matt... offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Baltimore, MD, US | 12 months ago (53 minutes after post)

Well its a good angle and nice lighting lol XD

Some others tried to get me to put a straightfoward pic of me up and I ran away like a scared 5 yr old :D

Anyway if you want to more about me add me on myspace I need more friends on there lol. And you can see what a big dork I am lol XD

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (53 minutes after post)

or me! pick me! lol..jk, i may be too young..haha but hot ****, PaDLe get to know the guy first.. ;D

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (54 minutes after post)

do i have permission to add you on myspace, matt?

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Matt... offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Baltimore, MD, US | 12 months ago (55 minutes after post)

miss.cari wrote:
do i have permission to add you on myspace, matt?

Please do, and anyone else reading this as well :) Need more friends XD

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (55 minutes after post)

yea. can I add you matt? and you too miss cari. How do we add friends here?

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (58 minutes after post)

uhh, there is a little person with a plus by my name and shouts and stuff, click that.. and yes you may on myspace if thats what you meant.. anyway, its myspace.com/caribug i think..lol

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

matt, how in the world do i add you on myspace.? lol

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

there’s a link to his myspace under his pic in his profile here.

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Matt... offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Baltimore, MD, US | 12 months ago (1 hour, 10 minutes after post)

There’s two big text links on the left below the trailer that say Add Me and Message Me :)

Also brb, I must rotate laundry XD

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

We’ll be here. :D

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

no i know that, lol.. but i mean i dont know where your contact box is on your profile..

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

Hey matt, why does it says that you already are my friend on myspace? Since when?

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

omg..ok i got it and yea its says you are my friend already too.. how come?

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

How do I add you miss cari?

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Matt... offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Baltimore, MD, US | 12 months ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

I’m back sorry, and yeah the link was broken but I fixed it.

Despite being a bit of a geek I somehow always seem to fail at myspace editing XD

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 34 minutes after post)

I think you did good. I googled mine. :D

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Baltimore, MD, US | 12 months ago (1 hour, 41 minutes after post)

Thanks, yeah I tried to get some help with it I even posted on here a few weeks back.

I wanted to make it all fancy lol.

It’s so hard to try to put yourself into words and pictures on a webpage, so I wanted to make sure it was done at least sort of right. :)

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 53 minutes after post)

i know some websites for mine..lol

but yea o like mine..ill have to add you right now though..

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 hour, 55 minutes after post)

its actuaually pretty easy to look for layouts for a myspace.if you ever need any help..

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Matt... offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Baltimore, MD, US | 12 months ago (1 hour, 59 minutes after post)

Thanks, yeah I saw a lot of layout sites but they were kind of plain. I wanted something unique looking, cause I’m unique lol, and I wanted it to be like closer to representing me.

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 2 minutes after post)

well i love it, its really cool. a little confusing, but freakin sweet..haha.. thats how i am too. i love hearts. so if i ever change my layout, its bound to have at least one heart in there..even if you have to look for it.

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 3 minutes after post)

So, how do I add you? when i click on the ‘ADD ME’, it transfered me to this mslinks.com or something like that..

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Matt... offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Baltimore, MD, US | 12 months ago (2 hours, 5 minutes after post)

One thing I want to adjust on it maybe is the font color. The sun in my background picture makes some of the text on the left hard to read.

And PaDLe the link should be working now, those mslinks.com stuff are just myspace’s way of hiding their links lol. But it should take you to a page to verify that you wanna add me :)

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 7 minutes after post)

you could change it, but that color is good, and im sure if anyone wants to read it, they can scroll up and see the writing perfectly. thats what i did.

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Yups. Exactly. Why is there only one picture? The same as here!!

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Matt... offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Baltimore, MD, US | 12 months ago (2 hours, 15 minutes after post)

Because it’s the only picture I really like of myself lol. I don’t take too many pictures. I have a few more maybe I will put them up later :)

I’ve always liked that kind of aqua color font. Assuming that’s what color it is, I’m a bit colorblind XD

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 16 minutes after post)

Well,.. I must find a way to get to see the rest of your pictures then!! lol. im just joking. I’ve added you. feel free to talk to me. I’m always bored!!

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Sans offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 57 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 17 minutes after post)

A successful relationship can start online, but at some point (sooner rather than later) it has to become in-person. Also, if it is long-distance the chances of it succeeding are a lot less.

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 19 minutes after post)

yes, i love that color, but i like more of the teal green. but i’ve always been a fan of aqua.. and same here.. no one ever messages me on myspace! lol.. im always open for any conversations..

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Matt... offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Baltimore, MD, US | 12 months ago (2 hours, 21 minutes after post)

I usually don’t message on myspace cause it’s so slow. I use messengers like MSN, yahoo or AIM.

And you’re right Sans, long distance does make it harder. When I was 17 I had a long distance gf. It wasn’t too long distance, only an hour drive, but neither of us had a car at the time so it felt like longer. And needless to say it didn’t work out lol.

Not that long distance relationships can never work, they can. It’s just harder. Especially when your life is rough and you feel like you need that person with you.

Also Sans I like your picture, your thing says you do design did you make it yourself?

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 24 minutes after post)

haha well i wouldnt mind adding you on yahoo.. of you dont mind..

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 34 minutes after post)

Me 2!!

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Matt... offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Baltimore, MD, US | 12 months ago (2 hours, 36 minutes after post)

Lol I didn’t realize I was so popular XD

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 40 minutes after post)

haha well i guess it help that you’re a cutie pie..lol

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 45 minutes after post)

miss.cari wrote:
haha well i guess it help that you’re a cutie pie..lol

Very true!!

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cari offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 47 minutes after post)

im out of help for today.. bye padle! have a nice night!

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PaDLe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 hours, 52 minutes after post)

Thanks. you too.

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An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (7 hours, 19 minutes after post)

If both are honest, then it would work.
I think online relationships work but there are less that do.
It is just difficult to be with someone online when one is just fooling around
making someone appear stupid.

But i’m glad for your mom! :)

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~Grace~ offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (10 hours, 58 minutes after post)

Yep, I think they can.

There’s actually a few members who met here, who have gotten married.

All relationships are work, but it takes somewhat more of commitment and strength with ones developed on-line I think. Especially long-distance ones. However, with enough love and work in the relationship, sure, why not? :)

If your mom seems to be happy with this person she’s met, then it looks like there’s an answer. Even off-line relationships have their problems and break-down though, some even for the same reason. (lack of communication, etc) Some people tend to be a little more judgemental about online-relationships, but I just tend to think it’s safer than meeting people at a bar who could be dangerous and have motives that aren’t appropriate. That’s just my opinion though.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (3 days, 7 hours after post)

As long as you eventually meet in person, maybe. But I still think the old-fashioned way is sooooooo much better :)

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