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Me and my boyfriend of almost three years just broke up. It wasn’t unexpected and I will admit it needed to happen. Our relationship had “died before it was over” type thing and we we’re hanging on to what was left of us because it was easier than letting go. The love was still there just we were not meant to continue dating. I took it harder than him because I still want to be with him, while a relationship isn’t in his plan right now and I know he still cares but is moving on and has seen a new girl a few times. His friends and my friends are close so it’s hard because I hear everything that happens still but recently he has been communicating with me, just friendly, goofy, silly, flirty chat, its just the way we are with eachother but I don’t know what to think of it. I told myself i need to cut him out for awhile to get over him, but I’m finding it easier even with him still there as a friend. But since this new girl seems to becoming into the picture I’m a tad confused though it isnt anything yet. I am so happy that he is moving on too,but he offered me a ride home and asked me to help out with some things today and I couldn’t say no. Was that wrong? Anyways I helped him with his things and then we found ourselves in a position face to face, and I found myself trying to kiss him. We both immediately took a step back and talked about it, said woah wait a minute this shouldnt happen, i don;t want you to do this and it make things harder but he reciprocated and one thing lead to another. When we left, it was a alright ill see you later, friendly goodbye but i don’t know what to think of tonight as a whole. I liked it…i mean loved it. But I know we;re not together yet I wanted it to happen but knew that it shouldn’t but it did. I don’t want to be that girl and i told that to him too, I just want to hear peoples opinions on what they feel about it.

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alasd offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

If you both have feelings again, and can’t get over it.
Try again, you both must still have a reason to be together
if it hasn’t died out.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

well ya there are still feelings there for sure, 3 years is a long time..how your feeling is pretty normal and im sure he is having some similar feelings..if your still set on being just friends, just stick with that, but if you think you wanna try again, best bet is to tell him and see how he feels before he gets invovled with this other chick. just my 2 cents.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

i think that you should give it another try u guys just needed some time apart n now you can go back n start over

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

I don’t find it very amusing that he has a new girl AND you to lash on to. Girl, get a grip! He can’t have it both ways. You need to explore life beyond him for a while before you make any rash decisions based wholly on emotion. You said yourself that the break up needed to happen. Focus on yourself for a while & explore explore explore the countless things the world has to offer you. You need to balance your head & your heart. He has made moves towards a future not involving you… make some of your own moves less this break up be in vain if you do get back together. If you really believe it needed to happen.. let it happen. If it is meant to be in the long run, then God bless you both & i wish you the best of luck. In any case, focus your attentions elsewhere for a while. He is not the end all be all of your love life or life in general for that matter. Good luck. GET A GRIP!!! lol, but not to him right away, k?

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (8 hours, 43 minutes after post)

@if the guy isn’t in to it then the relationship won’t work, it sounds like you are willing to give it another try but i think you should keep a distance and conceal your feelings until you know for sure that he is ready and willing to make commitment.

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