Person help: I hate myself. - Help.com

Awwh. I’m sorry *hug*

I feel the same way most of the time, so I understand.

Is there something you want to talk about?

It often seems like nothing will ever get better, but most often it does.
If I may ask, what are some of your flaws? Perhaps I can help you with them. I dont know if I can, but I’ll try.

Honey you are a good, sweet, nice person, thats why your boyfriend has loved you for so long, why do you hate yourself so much, what is it that you hate

Every one of us has flaws. What is different between them and you is they accept their flaws as a part of life and still go out and do things, like create, work, play, be with friends, love family and do for them as well.

So there is much work to be done by you and me and everyone else in the world. There will be mistakes in our work for a variety of reasons. Perception is one, not understanding is another, poor communication is another and so on. So the important thing is to keep doing for others, no matter what you feel about yourself. Learn from your mistakes and press on.

You are a warm considerate person, otherwise you wouldn’t feel the way you do. Once you pick a challenge, a purpose that you want to devote yourself too, the panick attacks will subside. That purpose doesn’t have to be for the rest of your life, just for now, pick something. Good Luck!

IDon’tEverQuit wrote:
I am too emotional, I overreact, I growl too much, I’m moody, I have no patience, and I can’t control my emotions whatsoever, I have many insecurities due to my past.

I dont see these as flaws. Being emotional is very common and a trait rather than a flaw. I wish I was over emotional rather than under emotional. Overreaction again is better than underreaction. Although it would be nice to be average in these things, it is better to have too much than not enough.

I am not sure what you mean by growling too much.

I dont see moody as a flaw, nor do I see impatience as a flaw.
I think there are ways to learn to control emotion, but I dont know them. I dont have enough emotion to warrant it.

Insecurities from the past can be very hard to deal with. I dont know exactly what it is that you are insecure about, but you are a kind, gentle, giving, friendly, great person and I really appreciate it.

Reach back into your childhood. Is there something you wanted to do or wanted to be. All of us in our core want to do something with our lives. I remember wanting to be a movie star and although I never actually achieved that, I have been in front of an audience from time to time.

I also want to help other people who have had bad things happened in their lives. So I volunteer at two organizations. If you love animals, you could be a volunteer rescuer for dogs or cats. Sort of a foster care person for animals.

Periodically they bring the foster dogs to different pet shop locations for adoption. If you can’t fend for the dog or cat more than a couple of weeks, they will another foster person to care for them. So don’t worry, you don’t have to keep them forever.

The new thing is urban gardens. If you have a backyard perhaps you could start an urban garden and you could either sell the veggies or give them to homeless organizations. You could also volunteer to help with serving dinners to the homeless over the Christmas Holidays.

These are just a few of the hundreds of ways you could reach out and spend your time. The first step is the hardest, going out there and signing up. But, once you do and you see the response it is so rewarding to your heart. Good luck.

I’m sorry you’re at such odds with your life, but I recently saw you help someone you didn’t even know, I think you’re a wonderful person in spite of all those things you say. We all care for you as we see you, not for the things you don’t like about yourself. Everyone has those in their life..{{{{{{{hug}}}}}} :)

I am pessimistic, and I am either right or pleasantly surprised. I understand why you want to change this though. Optimists live longer, or so I have heard, because positive energy makes you healthier.

With the trust issues, I am not sure what to do. Every person of trust in my life has betrayed me except my gf, and I am sort of waiting for her to do so, but she wont.
Similarly with the loss of faith in the world.

I’m also sort of pessimistic because I don’t want to be disappointed.
But it’s good to try to be more realistic instead. Things can’t go wrong all the time. It’s just not possible.
You don’t have to try to keep your hopes up about things, but be happy when things do go right! Disappointments will always occur, but I think it’s only a good thing to be prepared for them. To be pessimistic in that way.
I have been like you too. Overly emotional and angry at everyone and everything.
I can’t tell you how I got out of it, I just did. But I can tell you that I’m still overly emotional sometimes. I have issues with expressing my feelings sometimes and that makes me really frustrated. When I get really mad I don’t know how to get it out of me, so I end up hitting the wall or something stupid like that.
I am sure you have good qualities as well, you’re just too focused on the bad ones. You seem to know when you act out over things that you yourself know are unimportant. Try to stop yourself next time. When you feel angry take a step back and REALLY look at the problem, and you will realize quicker that it’s not something that you need to act so strongly about. You know it could be worse.
You could always try to picture something a lot worse than that, then you might get a new perspectiv on the thing you thought was a problem before.
And if your boyfriend loves you, he does so for a reason; you ARE great!
You know you can trust him, so do so.
IF he ever would break that trust, then you deal with it then. But because he hasn’t, then you don’t have to worry about it!