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hey man i hope you feel better ^_^ , i know one thing for sure when one door closes another opens man , good luck with everything ^_^

Hello Q! hugs you, i don’t know what else i can do but to sit and listen to you. Makes me want to give you hugs! I believe in you.

*hug for cotton*

Cotton2226 wrote:
Thanks from REAL special friends. It hurts…bad…she did it on purpose. It was intended to hurt. She certainly accomplished her mission, but I’ll be okay. Will use this to make my life better.

yeah you go bro ^_^ , there is a good thing in everything you just have to really look, let this be a good new start…

I don’t know if this is relevant or not.
probably more in alignment with the first part of your post.
I was out walking tonight, and I thought
“Mistakes don’t happen if you learn from them.”

Sorry you are going through this tough time. She sounds like a sad excuse for a wife. There is a bright side, though. Think of all the wonderful women who keep asking where all the nice guys are. Now I can tell them there is one out there on the loose, for sure. Keep your powder dry. Good times are sure to come your way.

You too :D

Hey Cotton, I’m sorry to hear that she hurt you like this. The only thing that comes to mind for me is thank heavens she is no longer with you. You should be glad that you are no longer sharing your life with someone who would do that to you because you don’t deserve that. People do things to hurt when they are unhappy themselves…your best revenge is to live a life with no regrets, learning all you can and enjoying what you have. You have a great perspective already and are leaps and bounds beyond her. Keep smiling buddy, we loves ya!

*giving you a hug* :)

disappointments come from our expectations.We always should expect good to come but also be realistic .I’m reminded of what happened to me recently having been in a relationship that ended unexpectedly and abruptly. What it taught me was although it hurt like heck I was glad I had danced,I enjoyed it while it lasted and things dont last forever.In fact sometimes things last only a short time so I had to see the quality of the relationship rather than the quantity.I agree how we respond to these things can make or break us and it brings to mind our attitude.If we complain or dwell on it it is self-defeating and keeps us stuck.YOU definitely have a healthy attitude .The thought of revenge ,although it be the norm for the circumstances ,was merely a fleeting thought and you having recognizing it have already conquered and overcome this stage,the rest will follow in time and will be easier since you have not allowed this to harden your kind heart.May you have peace and understanding my friend,Kim

Move on my friend. Though it may hurt still you have no choice but to really move on/ move forward. And if that means deleting your myspace account, or removing both your wife and him as your friend, or avoid looking at them so be it. In life nothing comes in silver platter. There is truth in the saying that everything has a price. And maybe your marriage with her is one of the many sacrifices you have to give. Nevertheless, you are still alive and kicking. Open yourself to new horizons, new opportunities and maybe new love as well. Many people here cares. So just hang on and pray.

Cotton you are a more noble soul than most. Lovely post. To suffer a wrong, and not give in to the most base of urges, revenge, is one of the hardest things a person can do. The wound will heal in time. A divorce is like an injury that hurts deep and for a long time, but which can be rehabilitated with mental and spiritual work. Find the what would be for you the equivalent of physical therapy for you, and do it.

Hi Cotton,

Divorce allways brings out the worst in people. Dont forgeet but forgivr and move on. I promise there is lovely days ahead. Been there and found my little place in the sun.

So does everyone else as well.

Good luck.

oh my goodness… im so very sorry to hear this news… how terrible..
but you do have to keep in mind, although both of these people have totally betrayed you… they deserve each other because they are both scum…
as for the revenge thing… yes, it is bitter sweet to get revenge.. but i have found that karma works just as well… so sit back and let nature take its course and smile when it does…

many hugs to you hun… love shie.

Glad you are a strong willed and motivated person. It takes a special kind of person to get back up from this sort of upset.
You have certainly had a hard time lately, that you keep taking the stuff thrown at you and doing your best to defeat it all, shows the determination you have, to put things right without to much bitterness on your part. Cant do anything but admire that in you.

Hi Cotton, very thoughtful notes from your friends above. :) How is your love life going if i may ask?

Cotton, I feel for you…My ex after our divorce began dating my then best friend. I found out from my daughter. it took a few days to recover from what I considered betrayal but once I sat and thought about it I realized why it happened. I divorced him and they are both codependent and antisocial.

She is a good person and I am rather glad that if anyone must be around my children it is her. (still feel the betrayal…after all she was my best friend and confidante at the time of my divorce…she knew everything. And I was still spilling my guts to her when I didn’t know they were dating.)

That was a year ago…emotionally I am good with the whole thing and I wish them all the best. But I just can’t be ‘friends’ with her (at least not yet).

Hang in there…

Jade