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Reply once, tell him that you want him to stop texting you. Be very clear and to the point. Do not argue as it’s pointless if you have no intentions of getting back together.

miss_enigma wrote:
Reply once, tell him that you want him to stop texting you. Be very clear and to the point. Do not argue as it’s pointless if you have no intentions of getting back together.

I agree, tell him to stop texting one time. After that don’t text him any more. Remove his number from your phone and just delete the messages. When someone does this even a negative response is seen as attention and that seems to be what he wants.

Miss Enigma has a very valid point. Tell him that you do not want him texting you. Be straight up about it. If you have moved on, then so should he.

The thing is, me and him got to a stage where we were purely texting each other, never meeting up, and I think he became accustomed to that. In the end, it felt like all he really wanted me for was to make him feel better about himself, feed his ego basically. That’s why I’m worried about texting him back, coz it seems to me like he’s certain I will eventually give in, and he’ll know it’s bothering me. Does that make sense?

Makes perfect sense, I still believe you should send him a final text and make clear that you no longer want him to message you or contact you in any way. If it keeps up then it is considered harassment and you could call the police. You need to make your boundaries clear and then stop all contact whatsoever. There is nothing wrong in saying or acknowledging that it’s bothering you, you have a right to be bothered. It could be considered stalking. He’s hoping you will give in and you have the power not to. I don’t see any problem in one last message if the intention is to cut ties completely. Who cares what he thinks or if he enjoys it? He won’t be any longer after that last text. ;)

PS, if you have asked someone to no longer contact you and they do, they have no respect for your boundaries at all…that’s not a good thing. Be careful. :)

I’ll wait until he texts me again (if he does). I’m sort of expecting him to text me today, coz it’s his birthday. He made me feel bad in a text before about passing his exams (that was right after I started ignoring him). I guess I’ll soon find out.

Thanks :-D

You’re welcome and yeah, I think waiting to see if he texts you is the best way to go. Goodluck! Let me know how it goes, I’ll be thinking about ya :)

Hey, just thought I’d let you know that he hasn’t texted me. I guess he has finally given up. He’ll just be another memory to me now :-/

Thanks for the update. I wouldn’t be surprised if you do get a text again some time in the future, I would just ignore it too if it happens again. Aww, well just keep in mind that all of our relationships in life have their lessons and there good and bad bits. Besides you have someone new in your life and much to be happy about! :)

Actually, a big coincidence, he texted me last night while I was texting my boyfriend. I didn’t reply, but I’m finding it scary that as soon as I think about him, he texts, awh well. Thanks for the response :-D

You’re welcome :)