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Oooooooooh. Toughie for sure!
Would her daughter take it?

If my experience of being sufferingly cold, broke and starving and having people try to force charitable money on me is of any relevance, I’d suggest not pushing that issue if she is very resistant to it, but maybe she could use someone to talk to or something. I know some long serious honest conversations about life could have helped me.

Just leave a Christmas card with cash at her door… you can address it from a local church and the card can say from an anonymous donor during the holidays… the gift of giving. I’m sure your daughter will hear about it when they get it.

well… the only way around that is to trust someone enough to hand deliver it when they are home. Some anonymous person (at least with no connection to you both)… I don’t know a teen that wouldn’t deliver an envelope for $20 bucks. Have someone come to the door dressed niced… with a handful of envelops… “just helping deliver stuff for their church” This is actually something the teens at the church I attend are doing now as a service project. It’s not cash… but gift cards… as good as cash.

just to say that my dad is somtimes in the same position that your friend is in. My nan tries to give him money but he wont take it, which i can understand, theres alot more imprtant things than money in this world. But it would be really nice if he did once in a while, even if its for somthing really small.

But paying for someones electricity bill seems to me a bit patronising, i know you mean well but from her point of view your saying that she cant look after herself which is a bit undermining…

I think the church idea is best, or some sort of made up thing where people are anominously nominated for money gifts or somthing like that…

anyway, good luck with it!

I wish someone could help me that way..but I dont have anyone like you..your friend should be lucky to have you…
this is going to be the hardest and sadliest Christmas ever…

to who is this dedicated?? I dont know what to do,I have to return a bank credit till friday or else I am about to lose my home…and it hurts… I mean I need 4.000 $,and I just dont have it…now I know why people commit suicides… :(

iwana wrote:
Michael, would you have been OK if when you were in this position, someone did it anonymously?

Sorry I took so long to reply here. It is simply difficult to know people’s motives sometimes. If a friend or family member cares for someone they know, then they can explain their helpfulness. And it seems that good deeds done anonymously are often helpful except they give more of a private feeling to the helper that they are somehow especially good for doing something without hope of reward — that feeling can distract from the fact that their helpfulness might not actually be very helpful at all. I think that open, upfront honesty in actions that affect other’s lives is most effective and controllable, if not so magic and unexpected. (The “magic” means unintended results can happen because someone doesn’t understand one of the big causes.) Sorry that’s all so general and abstract, I hope it means something.

The specific reason why it is uncomfortable accepting something that one is utterly desparate for is because it may not be a big deal for the giver but they can cause a big state of debt or dependency for the receiver. Hope that made a little sense.

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i am a widow of 3 children to support, 1 is college and 2 are disabled. I have no work now, i am 58 years of age now. plz if anyone can help me to start a small business as i still look for another good job since i lost my job as a clerk of a certain private institution in our place last 2003 for the decrease of population of student.

I would not leave cash at her door…. too risky. It would be better to purchase a money order depending on the amount, may have to purchase a couple of money orders). Make sure you write her name and address on the MO, and either leave the sender part blank or enter the name of a church. Make sure you have someone else enter the info on the MO just in case she would recognize the hand writing ! :-).
MO’s are more secure. If she loses the MO, then if you keep the receipt, you can go to the post office and place a trace on it, as well as have it replaced.
HTH!

Hi
My name is Jeremy Samson and I need to tell something about me and its not a shaggy dog story, please don’t ignore this letter.
I am a 32 year old male originally comes from Sri Lanka, north and east a small town called Trincomalee. After my High school I start working for a NGO called Caritas international under the Tsunami reconstruction and rehabilitation program. After working 4 years I couldn’t not work anymore due to the war between the LTTE (Liberal Tigers of Tamil Elam) And the Government Army. I simply became a target for both parties’ for the reason that am a social worker helping both Sinhalese and Tamil people. Moreover I see everyday a bead body in the street when I go to work in the morning. 19 of my friends were being killed in deferent places in the town and I was the last to remain. And it made me more scared. I had no choice than leavening the place ASAP. Luckily I had a aunty working in Dubai and she helped me leave the country.
I start working in Dubai for a Company called Thermo LLC as a logistics officer for 3 years. Then the global economic crisis hit the UAE so badly the company terminated almost 100 Workforce and I was included. By that time I still couldn’t go back home. My family didn’t want me to come home due to my own safety.
I had a Girlfriend called Carm from the Philippines who I meet in Dubai. Ones I told her my situation she ask me to go with her in the Philippines. I went in the Philippines under a tourist visa sponsored by Carm. Now am in the Philippines for more than two years and still couldn’t get a chance to visit my family.
After all this things, I have something to be happy. The reason for that is my carm is pregnant. But we are not yet married. I do not have a job No way of living so I couldn’t pay my Visa. Am stuck here in the Philippines. But I love my carm so much; she has being everything to me. But she comes from a poor family too. She will be given birth after 4 months and its makes really worried becouse I don’t have any saveings. I know you would advice me to go to the embassy and let them deport me. If that happen what will happen to carm and my unborn baby?
Every day I wake up with a hope but I don’t know what to do where to go. Me and Carm hardly eat a good meal. Am qualified engineer and a professional DJ. Nobody won’t to give me job due to my Visa status here. My families in Sri Lanka don’t have that much money to get me back home. I pray every night, I don’t know why, but this letter gives me a hope. Am writing this letter, because if it is possible I kindly request help and a little support to get out of these problems. I would do anything; I mean anything it takes to keep me, carm and our unborn baby alive.

Yours very truly
Jeremy Samson
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I need financial assistance to help me have a roof over my head of about $10,000

Hi, I don’t know if anyone can help,but it don’t hurt to ask . my fiancé Is in south Africa and had been working over there and is currently in the hospital over there and is very sick. I am needed to get him home to get treatment that he needs and we can’t afford for him to come home. I am asking for help, and once he gets home, I will make sure we help someone else in return or makes a donation to help someone else. Thank you so much my email- i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>..Debbie