Hard help: ok i really need some HELP! - Help.com

jjlove wrote:
Whoa Brad, that’s a tough one. There are also two very special people in my life who I am extremely attracted to, both for different reasons, but attracted in a big way nevertheless. Fortunately for me, neither of them are in the right place mentally or emotionally to be in what I would consider an ideal relationship (for me anyway -and truth be told, maybe I’m not either), so the pressure is off to make such a decision. For now, I am just enjoying their friendships, and believe that if either relationship is ever meant to someday be more than what it is now, we’ll both know it and can cross that bridge if and when we get to it. …Enjoy your life. You are way younger than me and have many years ahead of you to make committments to others. For now, live it up and be happy to be at the place you are in your life. You will never pass this way again.

Have a great day! :-)

i kno i need to liv it up but i feel im growing up to fast. with the whole growing up thing i really want a good relationship. i havnt had one in so long. lol

jjlove wrote:
I hear you, Brad. It has also been a very long time for me too, but the truth is, I am happy to have this “me” time right now. I do sometimes miss the intimacy of a “special” relationship, or even love, but I would far rather be alone than to be in even one more that ever has the potential to be less than it is in 20-30 years than it is on the very first moment that we look into each other’s eyes and realize that we are totally in love with each other. …You have lots and lots of time for that, trust me. In the meantime, what’s wrong with dating or just hanging out with friends? If you feel a need to be in a committed relationship to be truly happy with yourself, then you need to work on that before you can truly enter into a totally healthy relationship with someone else.

Now don’t argue with me!! :-) Get out there and have some fun this Friday night, and don’t worry about this stuff so much. Don’t go looking for love, because it will surely elude you. Stop looking, and it will find you. …TRUST ME! Hehe, I am older than you and know what I’m talkin’ about. :-)

K, gotta get to the beach now. It’s calling to me. :-) …C ya later, alligator!

haha u r very helpful. but i think the reason i cnt find a healthy relationship is cuz i go out and hav to much fun. im not goin to lie im a bit of a manwhore (im not proud of it) but i go to partys and stuff happens. i hav a great time but im sick of just one nite things. lol

hav fun at the beach and i will ttul. thanks for the help :)

haha yes i always use protection. i dnt think it would be a good idea to hav very many “mini- brads” running around. lol

good bye hav a nice day.