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It is my understanding that it is illegal for a person to file joint taxes with an ex spouse.

It is also my understanding that it is illegal for a person to list an ex spouse as their current spouse on any legal document-for example health insurance, car insurance.
I married my current spouse two years ago, at the time I met him I was widowed. He was divorced when we met, his ex wife and their daughter live in another state.
My husband ( unknown to me) continued to list his ex wife as current spouse on legal documents after their divorce. A year after their divorce his ex was in a serious car accident,but has since recovered enough to take care of their daughter as she did before. I have never met his daughter (now 13), and never met his ex.I have also never talked to them on phone. My husband, insists on keeping his family and myself 100% separate.
I was also injured in an accident two and one-half years ago. I have no input in his listing his ex as spouse on documents. He says his daughter is reason why he does things as he dose. I understand he has an obligation to his daughter, and I would never wish for her to be neglected in any way.
However I am feeling a little left out in the cold and unprotected.
My questions are:
1)Am I unreasonable for questioning his actions on legal documents?
2)How worried should I reasonably be?
3) He has a minor daughter, and a new spouse.At what point is he starting to neglect our relationship, and my interests,he has a child,but what should my rights reasonably be?
4) how would you feel in my position?
One last bit of info-after their divorce he continued to list ex spouse on documents as current spouse. Her accident happened a year after their divorce, and four months before our marriage. My husband uses her accident as reason for many of his choices-but he was doing all this before she got hurt.
I appreciate any/all feedback-thanx

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1 year ago (21 minutes after post)

ok… well due to my short attention span i didn’t read all of this…

but…
1. it is not unreasonable to question the legality of this… because basically an ex-spouse is just a random person now. its like you saying you want to list muhammed the gas station owner on your taxes this year. doesn’t make sense.

2. be a little worried. don’t try to combine any of your money with his at this point. and communicate all of this with him.

3. you are entitled to child support if you are divorced. and any constituents that were in your original agreement should be honored. all of these things should be discussed openly… lay it all out literally on the table…

4. i would feel betrayed and distrustful, but i would remember the love. and talk it out. be open, be honest, be harmless.

good luck.

:)

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mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (22 minutes after post)

Your insurances could be invalidated if the statements made on them are inaccurate. His ex is no longer his spouse, therefore he is making a “false declaration”.

He should either be declaring his taxation as an individual or name his current spouse as co tax-payer. Again, a false declaration could see him liable for prosecution.

His obligations as parent to his daughter should not be affected in anyway by declaring his current status. In fact, he could be actively preventing his ex from claiming the correct child support for his own daughter with this set-up.

In terms of your own protection, you must take legal advice to ensure that you are properly taxed and insured.

As things stand, any insurances he holds are at serious risk.

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eveteranish offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (34 minutes after post)

I know he has a final divorce decree, and form what he has said the way he is listing things was not part of the final settlement agreement ordered by judge.
I am not properly insured-that’s part of my problem.
I have told him I would be happy if he could add me to insurence and bump no one else. His answer is he can’t because he has ex listed as current spouse, and that would be same as saying he has two wives.
I have never been divorced, but I thought final divorce decree was supposed to list both former partner’s rights and responsibilities.

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mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (40 minutes after post)

All the time he has his ex listed as current spouse, he is making a false declaration according to law.

He has to change it or the documents are declared to be illegitimate. He is UNINSURED whilst that false declaration remains. Legally, if he attempts a claim he could be prosecuted.

The same situation applies for taxation purposes.

The only exception would be if his decree nisi was not absoulute .. in which case you are not legally married/he is guilty of bigamy.

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mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (40 minutes after post)

absolute*

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mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (43 minutes after post)

He may list his ex for car insurance purposes but may NOT declare her to be his spouse.

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mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (48 minutes after post)

My advice would be to take immediate action to cover yourself if he refuses to.

Without knowing the full facts of this case, it would seem that he is knowingly falsifying documents. Keep your affairs separate from his until he has sorted them out correctly.

I would be suspicious as to WHY he feels it necessary to do this? The only possible benefit to him would appear to be to not have to pay his dues to his daughter. It could be that his ex is entitled to health care benefits etc. at his expense according to the judgements made at the divorce hearing.. but that should be arranged as a new policy or the documents properly adjusted to reflect the current status.

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