boyfriend help: I got myself into this problem. - Help.com

Hey hun,
I totally understand. My shopping problem stems from not feeling like I’m in control of anyting. So I go shopping thinking it’s the only thing I have control of and I go on a spree. It seems to me it ties in with everything else your going through. I read your latest blog and it seems like you just trying to break free. You may possibly be feeling trapped and your boyfriend telling you not to spend is just something else that’s making you go a little nutty for kitty.

Katie you need a break from all if it from yourself rather. Have you thought of just visiting or taking a trip not leaving him all together but of just coming back to visit?

How is the spanish going for you? How is it coming along?

Aside from everything else. I wouldn’t be too afraid to talk to your boyfriend about how you spent some money again. You should talk to him and make sure he understadns whats going on with you. Granted spending money out of boredome isn’t a excuse, but you could tell him it’s something your working on. Explain to him how you have been feeling. You feel a little trapped no one else to depend on besides him. No friends No family, explain to him how it has been taking a toll on you. You still adjusting to the change.
Does he take you out. Do you guys do things together? Tell him to show you places. Katie your a remarkable and sweet person is there really no one you know out there yet?
Your in spain sweetie take this as an opportunity to get know you a little better learn things. Not just about spain but about yourself as well.

Well don’t be shy! Things progress when you go after what you want. You yourself are the perfect example. You went to spain to be with someone who’s absolutely perfect for you.

And there are things you and your boyfriend can do that doesn’t require money. You could even suprise him one day by going out on your OWN and finding a nice area where you can take him to and have a picnic that you put together yourself.
Find ways of being prodctive. Learn new things. Learn how to cook an excellent meal (just one) and perfect it. Learn everything you can about spain learn about the flag the people. Some of the places you can go. Things of that nature.
Excersize. It builds endorphins :p
Don’t get so down on youself. Your adjusting to some major changes.

Relax. Gain confidense. If you tell him in confidense he’ll have a hard time staying mad at you. Especially if you follow through with making him understand with how you are feeling. WHat’s done is done move foward tell him to be patient because you sitting at home doing nothing has really effected you.

This is crazy Katie, why do you look at Ebay when you’re bored? You’re a compulsive shopper, don’t be.

J.

What happened with your BF? Did you tell him? I a bit of a compulsive shopper myself. I have a obsession with gadgets. I had an ex who was crazy over shoes. I guess everyone has something. But you shouldn’t do it to the point that you use your last or go in debt to get something that you probably wont enjoy for long. I suggest using opendns to block ebay and other shopping sites.

aayy dont worry i know what you mean! just stay away from hello kitty and ebay lol