girl help: told this boy i liked him that took me alot, and he was all nice, - Help.com

sounds like a swinger. good job u know what hes like.
now keep ur distance!

It sounds like you’re approaching this situation with certain assumptions like “if he was interested in me, he wouldn’t be interested in anyone else.” It would be great (well, at least in some ways it would be) if everyone could be guaranteed to have the same assumptions.

Unfortunately, though, people have very different ideas of when “exclusivity” kicks in — and to be honest, I think your idea of when it kicks in is rather rare. I think that most people believe that, until they’ve specifically established that they’re committed to one person, they can flirt with many people they’re interested in — and though they may be flattered when someone says “I like you”, they don’t think that means commitment and would be really surprised if they learned the other person thought that.

I speak from experience: I once hurt myself quite badly by believing that a girl who indicated she was interested in me must therefore be interested in i>only /i> me. Of course it hurt when I found out she was interested in several others as well, but when it comes down to it, the one who hurt me was me. She never went back on anything she said; I just assumed things she hadn’t said.

I wish you good luck.