Love help: I cant look anyone in the eye for mor than a couple seconds! - Help.com

omg i do the same thing, half the time without noticing…tis strange….

hmmm

you ever tried practicing on pictures?

its something that takes practice really. i used to kinda be this way and i used trying to see someones eye color as a little trick to get eye contact down, once u do it so much it becomes easier and easier.

glad I could be useful :D

I think most people find making eye contact quite a challenge. I usually look at the bridge of their nose. That way it looks to them as if you’re looking straight into their eyes even though you’re not :)

yeah I look at their eyebrows sometimes lol.

Feels awkward hu, well usually people that don’t look into someone’s eyes when they speak are alittle shy. In case your shy, you can practice speaking to others, that will help.

I only look into the eyes of people I care about. Anyone else I talk to I do sort of a look around them glare.

There is no need to be ashamed or worried about eye contact. I know way to many people who are freaked out by it. It is just your eyes after all.

I have the exact same problem! I usually just avoid eye-contact and look down at my skirt or something.

i actually thinks its creepy when people look you straight in the eye
Is one expected to maintain eye contact for the entire conversation because I tend to shift around?

Here’s what I think-according to the bible, the eye is the window of the soul. When people have a rough time with eye contact (as I used to BIGTIME), it can be for a number of underlying reasons, such as guilt, (like one post said) insecurity, fear, indifference, etc. When I became a Christian a few years ago, I started to see the world in a completely different way, and conversing with people, for me, changed. I suddenly had a reason for talking or listening to everyone-the advancement of the gospel. And to be as loving an individual as possible, I naturally started to make eye-contact more, just to show attentiveness, concern, and compassion. Oppositely, I know when I’m sharing something with someone and they’re staring at their phone or looking everywhere but me, I feel like I’d get more satisfaction out of talking to a pet. So, I put the “Do unto others” thing into effect and started giving my full attention to speakers (as best I could) because that’s what I would want if I was trying to share something with someone.
I enjoyed reading these posts too-this is one of those things that rarely gets brought up in actual conversation….:D