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I wanted to ask this girl out.
I had finally built up to confidence to do it, after much advice from you all on this site. I was planning on doing it either tomorrow or thursday. But, today, she was very distant from me, almost as if she were purposely ignoring me. She has always been a kind person to me, always happy to see me, and me her. Whenever she would see me, it was almost as if her eyes were glowing and she gave me a genuine smile. I’ve known of her for a few years, but in the past few months, I’ve started talking to her and getting to know her better. I figured it was time that I let my heart do what it wanted to do and ask her to go out sometime. Did I do something to offend her? I didn’t even get to talk to her today :(. Can you see any hidden reason why she would not initiate any sort of conversation with me or anything? Now I’m somewhat hesitant, because maybe she doesn’t feel the same way… What should I do? I’m so confused now.
I say don’t worry about. She probably doesn’t notice that she is being distant. You can’t expect her to always be around. Maybe she had other things to deal with. Honestly, I don’t think she is trying to ignore. Just go up to her instead of waiting for her to come to you. Just ask her out.
Anonymous#
11 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)
Obviously it’s better to ask someone out in private. However, I only see her during my art course, which is sometimes very crowded. There is this one guy, a year younger than me, who keeps on following her around in class (rather annoying); it doesn’t really allow me to get any moment of privacy with her. How should I go about this?
Anonymous#
11 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)
Her and that guy are not an item, if you were wondering.
Anonymous wrote: Obviously it’s better to ask someone out in private. However, I only see her during my art course, which is sometimes very crowded. There is this one guy, a year younger than me, who keeps on following her around in class (rather annoying); it doesn’t really allow me to get any moment of privacy with her. How should I go about this?
Starbucks is so not middle aged. I go to Tully’s or starbucks all the time. Or ice cream. It’s good stuff.
Movies provide good make out opprotunities. Also, just ask her out man, you dont have anything to lose. Awkwardness goes away after about a week if she says no. If she says yes, your in good shape.
It makes me wonder if she’s been waiting for you to ask her out, but now she may be feeling a bit dejected that you haven’t and has somewhat given up on the idea. Whats to lose though really, ask her if she’d like to see a movie maybe, and go from there :-) she can only say no cant she, and then you just remain friends nothing lost nothing gained.
Anonymous#
11 months, 3 weeks ago (19 hours, 40 minutes after post)
So I was in my class today with her and I overheard her talking with that kid about a guy she went to homecoming with this year. She said they were texting each other. I did hear her say that she didn’t see it going anywhere and that she really wasn’t looking for anything serious now. Due to this, I didn’t ask her out today, because I wanted to get your opinions before I do anything stupid. Should I still ask her out? I know this is so trivial, I just don’t want to look like a fool…