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I wanted to ask this girl out.

I had finally built up to confidence to do it, after much advice from you all on this site. I was planning on doing it either tomorrow or thursday. But, today, she was very distant from me, almost as if she were purposely ignoring me. She has always been a kind person to me, always happy to see me, and me her. Whenever she would see me, it was almost as if her eyes were glowing and she gave me a genuine smile. I’ve known of her for a few years, but in the past few months, I’ve started talking to her and getting to know her better. I figured it was time that I let my heart do what it wanted to do and ask her to go out sometime. Did I do something to offend her? I didn’t even get to talk to her today :(. Can you see any hidden reason why she would not initiate any sort of conversation with me or anything? Now I’m somewhat hesitant, because maybe she doesn’t feel the same way… What should I do? I’m so confused now.

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RainDancer offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

I say don’t worry about. She probably doesn’t notice that she is being distant. You can’t expect her to always be around. Maybe she had other things to deal with. Honestly, I don’t think she is trying to ignore. Just go up to her instead of waiting for her to come to you. Just ask her out.

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Anonymous #
11 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

Obviously it’s better to ask someone out in private. However, I only see her during my art course, which is sometimes very crowded. There is this one guy, a year younger than me, who keeps on following her around in class (rather annoying); it doesn’t really allow me to get any moment of privacy with her. How should I go about this?

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Anonymous #
11 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Her and that guy are not an item, if you were wondering.

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RainDancer offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
Obviously it’s better to ask someone out in private. However, I only see her during my art course, which is sometimes very crowded. There is this one guy, a year younger than me, who keeps on following her around in class (rather annoying); it doesn’t really allow me to get any moment of privacy with her. How should I go about this?

Why can’t you just ask to talk to her in private?

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Anonymous #
11 months, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Wouldn’t that be kind of awkward for her? Maybe I’m just crazy…

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RainDancer offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
Wouldn’t that be kind of awkward for her? Maybe I’m just crazy…

I don’t think it would be awkward for her…I guess it really depends on the person. She’d probably be fine.

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Anonymous #
11 months, 3 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

Okay. I just thought the whole “what does he want to talk about” thing would be weird. I guess not.

Is getting coffee or lunch an appropriate first date for us? Should I even call it a date?

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

After class ask to a movie. Ask her out after the movie. Or call her and ask her to the movie.

If your in high school coffee is good at like starbucks, dont call it a date though. Movies are good to (as I said above)
Or bowling, bowlings good.

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Anonymous #
11 months, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

I think I’d rather do coffee or bowling than a movie, because at a movie I wouldn’t really be able to talk to her.

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RainDancer offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
I think I’d rather do coffee or bowling than a movie, because at a movie I wouldn’t really be able to talk to her.

I say go for bowling. Coffee seems to middle aged.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

Starbucks is so not middle aged. I go to Tully’s or starbucks all the time. Or ice cream. It’s good stuff.
Movies provide good make out opprotunities. Also, just ask her out man, you dont have anything to lose. Awkwardness goes away after about a week if she says no. If she says yes, your in good shape.

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Sasha101 offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

It makes me wonder if she’s been waiting for you to ask her out, but now she may be feeling a bit dejected that you haven’t and has somewhat given up on the idea. Whats to lose though really, ask her if she’d like to see a movie maybe, and go from there :-) she can only say no cant she, and then you just remain friends nothing lost nothing gained.

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Anonymous #
11 months, 3 weeks ago (19 hours, 40 minutes after post)

So I was in my class today with her and I overheard her talking with that kid about a guy she went to homecoming with this year. She said they were texting each other. I did hear her say that she didn’t see it going anywhere and that she really wasn’t looking for anything serious now. Due to this, I didn’t ask her out today, because I wanted to get your opinions before I do anything stupid. Should I still ask her out? I know this is so trivial, I just don’t want to look like a fool…

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RainDancer offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days after post)

One date isn’t anything serious. Just go for it…nothing to lose.

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Anonymous #
11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days after post)

Is it too late to ask her out tomorrow?

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RainDancer offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 23 hours after post)

Anonymous wrote:
Is it too late to ask her out tomorrow?

It is never too late…just ask her before someone else does.

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антихрист offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (1 week, 6 days after post)

ask her about it. You should find out the reason for her distance before you ask her out

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