Thought help: Ok after the trust is broken can it be fixed, how long will it take and how do you stop yourself from going out of your mind in the mean time? - Help.com

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It was his EX,right? I mean, she was before you then, I guess.
Or were the pics taken since you two have been together?
If they were taken previous to your relationship, well that is HIS business.
Snooping is wrong, no matter what.
It is one sure way of getting our feelings deeply hurt.
But nonetheless, it just depends on when these pics were taken.

Yeah snooping is bad but so is lying, he knows I snooped and I know he lied so how do we get back to how things were and will they ever?
I don’t care if he has pictures of his ex I mean I have pictures of my ex, the difference is I am open about it and he bloody lies about it. How are you meant to trust someone that just can’t be open with you

OK I understand where you are coming from.
But some people just aren’t that open with their pasts.
They really try to shelter it as best they can.
And to be honest, I’ve never met anyone who totally gives up every little bit of information from their past to whoever wants it.
I mean, even if we totally love someone, do we have to tell every little thing about every moment in our lives?
I am NOT judging, but maybe you need someone who IS alot more open with their lives.
You can’t go through life always worrying and wondering, that’s for sure.
And sometimes, when that trust IS broken, there is no going back.
I know that it hurts. Very much.
But how about just giving yourself a break for just a couple of days.
Just to cool off and think it over rationally.
I’d hate to see you lose someone that you genuinely care about because of making snap decisions when you are this upset.
Time is the only answer. Time to calm down, and have a sit with yourself to figure this out.
To figure out what it is you really want for your life.
So, please try to take it easy on yourself, ok?
Your heart will tell you what to do. Edie

Thanks Edie, i will try to do just that. the thought of life without him is awful although right now life with him isn’t all that great either. Why does it have to be so hard. Just when I thought I had met the man I would marry, he seemed so perfect and now we have both gone and messed up!

Don’t “obsess,” Anon! That will ruin things quicker than anything! He is not your “be all” and “end all”! Don’t think of any guy as your “last chance” for happiness. And don’t worry about what he is doing. If he’s any good, you shouldn’t have to worry!

I always kind of thought that untill you met someone that was your be all and end all then don’t bother going through all the heartache, so I guess this guy I had decided was my be all and end all so now what, I don’t want to meet another guy. I hadn’t met someone as wonderful as him for 25 years so whos to say I ever will again! Life sucks, loves sucks why is it so hard, being single was great not a care in the world, then I went and fell in love and ruined everything

Anon, do you know what idolatry is?

Idolatry is putting other things or people before God. And that will always lead to disappointment.

Yes, we’ve all done it.

I had a wife and a four-year-old son. She left us for a guy 22 years older than she was. Said she had to “find herself.” Now, THAT is heartbreak.

I thought she was incapable of betrayal, of doing the things she did.

Human beings are fallible. They have feet of clay. When we elevate them to the level of God, that’s the time the real problems begin.

By the way, “karma” got her!

Karma always does, you have given me something to think about. I guess I need to reevaluate some things, being a dolphine would be easier right now, or a swan they mate for life right!

TRUST IS EARNED.which takes years,,suspicion can destroy it in a moment,so if you
have suspicion involved its really hard to ever trust 100 percent,,which means no.
it won’t be the happy rest of your life relationship.