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I NEED TO GET AWAY!

I’m homeschooled and have been for my entire life! Next year I’ll be in highschool and I want to be sent to a public high school! But my mom is being overprotective and doesnt want me to get out into ‘the real world’. My older sister is going to be going to college next year and my mom is afraid of losing her ‘baby girl’! She wont let me date until I’m 18 which i see the point in that but I would really to have friends. The only friends I have are my neighbor and kids from my church who are now abandoning me! My friends I have now are starting to go off and do their own thing. So now I am almost friendless and my mom still doesnt understand! When I try making friends with other kids they look at me like I’m some freak! All the guys in my neighborhood think I’m just a hot girl they practicing flirting with! I really dont know how to convince my mom to place me in a public school

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deloisnelly3 offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (55 minutes after post)

Hi have you tried to talk to your mom and tell her how you feel?
Let her know that she can’t protect you from life. (it happens). I was doing that to my kids, but knew it wasn’t good for them. You’re mom needs to try to find herself and see what it is that she really is afraid of. Maybe like me I was afraid of being alone.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 52 minutes after post)

I understand where your mom is coming from, but I do not agree with her.
She’s trying to protect you from the ‘real world’ but what she fails to realize is that she can’t protect you forever. One day, sooner or later, you’re going to be out of school and looking to find a place of your own, and it’s going to be scary as hell because she has kept you from everything. Sure, she really is being a good mother by trying to protect you, but she can’t protect you from everything. It seems to me that she refuses to accept that just yet, and that’s why she’s smothering you. She needs to let you experience life now, because she is (in a way) ruining your youth. Sit down and have a chat with her.

Don’t yell, don’t scream, don’t accuse.

Politely explain to her how you feel, and also show her that you respect where she is coming from. Ex: “Mom, I am so thankful that you want me to be safe - but please try and understand that I need to learn things on my own. I need to make mistakes so I can grow from them ..and all the while, you can still be there for me.”
Something along those lines. :) That’s definitely going to be more effective than yelling at her and demanding she needs to let you go to public school. :P
Hope that helps.

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