Love help: Ok, so I have this friend and I care about him a great deal. - Help.com

That is kind of weird. Do you think he might be feeling that way?

ask him whether he wants you to fall in love with him
and if he doesnt
then tell him that you dont want to :P
and thats that

but if he says that he wants you to fall in love with him
and that he has feelings for you
then tell him that you love him, just not in that way
and that you’d much rather be good friends
because its causing you two to drift apart at the moment.
(Y)
hope this helps.
xx

The best way is by telling him the truth. Is he falling or is he in love with you?

A year and a half ago we were “romantically” involved, it didn’t work out because he got all weird about it and said that he felt “threatened” by me. We didn’t speak for about 6 months. In April we both agreed that we were over it and would resume the friendship we had before we got involved seriously with one another. I have enjoyed the friendship we have and I figure we have already gone down the “lovers” road and it didn’t work out, no point going through that pain again. I think that he wants me to be in love with him (he did this to me before we got romantically involved too). He tells me over and over that he doesn’t think we work well together when we get too close or are involved in each other’s lives too much and I’m fine with that. To put it simply, I like him more as a friend then I do as a lover and I have told him that. But yet he still keeps “worrying” that I might fall in love with him. I did kind of poke fun at him for thinking he was that irresistible. :-)

That’s a bit of an odd situation you got there! Maybe yo could just remind him that the reason you wanted to resume your friendship was because you were BOTH over the past relationship, you feel comfortable in your friendship, and for him not to confuse the love you have for him as a friend as anything else. Just drill the message into his head, and eventually he’ll get. I don’t think his feelings will be hurt, at least they shouldn’t be, if all he really wants from you is a friendship in the first place :D