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My girlfriend of over a year and close friend of six years left me yesterday and may have feelings for another one of my close friends.

Both of these people also happen to be in my band which is honestly, one of the only things going well in my life. If they were to get together, I don’t know if I would be able to be around or even talk to them anymore. I know the feelings she has for him are probably driven by a need for amphetamines, and her feelings are highly illogical. I think she may just be attaching to him because he’s the only guy that is readily available to her but, what do I do if she acts on it? These two people make up over half of my significant relationships… I don’t want to loose either of their friendships, but it would take a whole lot of substance abuse in my part to get over them getting together….

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My girlfriend of over a year and close friend of six years left me yesterday and may have feelings for another one of my close friends. Both of these people also happen to be in my band which is honestly, one of the only things going well in my life. If they were to get together, I don’t know if I would be able to be around or even talk to them anymore if they did. I know the feelings she has for him are probably driven by a need for amphetamines, and her feelings are highly illogical but, what do I do if she acts on it? These two people make up over half of my significant relationships… I don’t want to loose either of their friendships, but it would take a whole lot of substance abuse in my part to get over them getting together….

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

I have talked to them about this, and they told me that they won’t but sometimes people let biological chemicals get the best of them. And I meant to say that he’s the only other guy, but me, that is readily available.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (45 minutes after post)

sometime people are what thay say just freind you are looking thougth eyes that has just been crying and a hart that has just been bronken. they cound be just frends and when you leave or been left then you you trun to someone that all way arond the two of you. eitheer of them may not be thinking that way but if you keep push the it may go that way. where they freind before you to,are while you to where to together.if so just because you nottogether dose that mean they should just stop been their for each other

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