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I understand exactly what you mean… I was in a relationship for a year where he would just run away from the problem instead of talking about it and trying to fix it, and I, of course, would want to fix it right away. Perhaps you should give him a buffer period to cool down and relax, and approach him about it later. Still approach him to talk, just not immediately, and let him know that talking about things helps you to feel better about the situation. That way there can be a compromise.

I would recomend a great book (men are from mars women are from venus) it talks in detail on this topic. Good luck!

Talking is good, but when and how you talk can be important. I think that thatredheadedgirl’s advice is good. Sometimes people just aren’t sure what they think about something right away, or they need time to let the adrenaline subside, or they need time for some other reason.

However, it is also possible that he just isn’t really interested in the relationship the way you are. I don’t know your situation, but the number of years does not necessarily reflect the level of commitment. Are you in high school, college, out of school, …? Does he demonstrate commitment to the relationship in other ways, or are you a girlfriend of convenience for him? Make sure that if you are sinking time and energy into the relationship it is something you are both willing to do — otherwise you might be better off breaking free and investing that energy in your own life for a while.

thank u every one for your advice its nice to know that people care:] i am just gonna give him time cool off after arugments and we ll see what happens from there thank u very much !