Try saying this to yourself daily
My Primary Relationship is With Myself
My primary relationship is with myself- all others are mirrors of it. As I learn to love myself, I automatically recieve the love and appreciation that I desire from others. If I am commited to myself and to living my truth, I will attract others with equal commitment. My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another.
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libragirl12 wrote:
Try saying this to yourself daily
My Primary Relationship is With Myself
My primary relationship is with myself- all others are mirrors of it. As I learn to love myself, I automatically recieve the love and appreciation that I desire from others. If I am commited to myself and to living my truth, I will attract others with equal commitment. My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another.
hi libragirl.thanks for your reply.i want to change but i know that the change i need is going to hurt others in my life.i find this impossible to do,its one thing to hurt me,but to hurt others who ar innocent
honesty is the key,and i just dont feel im being honest
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Why do you think that you will hurt others by loving yourself?
im engaged to a girl and im not one hundred percent certain that shes the one (if that is actually possible) for me. i feel im doing this all for her and i dont think its for me.
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you can’t go through with that. You will hurt her more than you can ever immagine. Break it off, it is so much the lesser evil. Trust me, I know to much about this subject
libragirl12 wrote:
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you can’t go through with that. You will hurt her more than you can ever immagine. Break it off, it is so much the lesser evil. Trust me, I know to much about this subject
i feel like im coming apart at the seams.
i left once already and i came back and we just picked u pwhere we left off.she didnt question it,she didnt assault me ,she didnt scream at me.
there were no tantrums, no “how could u do that?” nothing.she says she is just glad to have me back.
do u think its possible that even tho she knows it should end,she is clinging onto this in the vain hope that something will change ,and maybe the relationship can be salvaged.
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Yes baby, I did that for 15 years, I am divorced now with a 5 year old boy. My Ex loved me, he was never in love with me. There is a big difference
I was in love with him. He did that for me, I now wish he did not
libragirl12 wrote:
Yes baby, I did that for 15 years, I am divorced now with a 5 year old boy. My Ex loved me, he was never in love with me. There is a big difference
I was in love with him. He did that for me, I now wish he did not
u wish he hadnt stayed.that he would have been honest and said ” i care for you so deeply,but thats it”
we are both scared ,me to leave and face being alone,her of being alone adn havign to face people and answer questions about me.
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All of the above. I wish I left when I secretly knew that I should. I wish he loved me like I loved him. I wish I had the courage to stay away from him for good when I knew better. I wish I was not a single mother to a beautiful boy who needs his absent father. I have lots of regrets. I have learned so much, I wish I was stronger then to be alone. So my answer is yes to all. Fear is always temporary. I have also learned that people are not as harsh as you imagaine, expecially thoes that have lived and loved. Your friends and family are not as tough as you think
i want to tel her everything will be alrite.i want to hold her and make all her dreams come true.but i know that if i do it will be to my detriment.
i said to her last week that ive had suicidal thoughts ,and she didnt seem overly concerned about it. she tells me to go if it will make me happy,but she adds a rider,that maybe i wont be happy .
i dont have the mental strength to play these games. I asked her about two months ago what she would do if SHE didnt love me (role reversal) and she said she would leave because it would get boring.
now me asking that is like someone going to a counselor and saying ” i have a friend who has this problem,but its not me “
she knoew what i meant but still she just wants to trundle along
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She has her own selfish reasons to keep you around. You need to take care of you for once. I dont want to but I have to use this saying once more,
You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection It is the most true of all
i have to sign off now but thank u for ur help.i know what needs to be done ,its just doin it
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Good luck with this. I hope you choose wisely, for yourself as well.
Love sent your way
Libra
Christ taught us to love our neighbor as ourselves. What gets lost in that too often is that we are also to love ourselves. We should treat ourselves with just as much care and concern as others and not ignore our own needs by giving everything to someone else. You can’t get money out of a checking account if someone is making deposits into that account.
Ultimately our own self worth comes from doing what’s right. Not from what others want us to do or even from what we want to do,but from making our behavior align with our correct beliefs.
I want out
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