Love help: My boyfriend’s 20 year old sister is pregnant. - Help.com

I’m not entirely sure how I could help. But I would like to try. I’m 20 myself and could not imagine having a baby at this age. Is your jealousy because they are having a baby and you want one, or that the expectations on you are different from theirs?

The little green eyed monster eh ? he will do you no favors hon, Id pack him in a box tie it tight and keep him there. He’ll destroy friendships , relationships and push away anyone that tries to befriend you. Be happy for them, you’ll get your own baby one day when the time is right, don’t destroy the good friendships you have going. Keep the Green Eyed gremlin in that box :-)

I agree with Sasha101…jealously is not a good emotion to have. It just isolates you from others. If you don’t want to damage your relationship with your boyfriend or his sister then just be happy for them.

I don’t think you should be envious of a woman who is pregnant and unmarried. Not a very secure position in which to be!

:( thats not very nice

chev.jame wrote:
I don’t think you should be envious of a woman who is pregnant and unmarried. Not a very secure position in which to be!

I don’t believe this post actually mentions whether or not her boyfriends’s sister is married, but I’m going to assume she isn’t. At age 20, it is unlikely she has finished college, although she could have completed a trade school program. Still, it’s better to have finished your first higher education degree before you get married and start having children (hopefully, in that order). By doing that, you ensure you are on firm ground to support your new family. Of course, I have seen plenty of situations where children born out of wed-lock have helped mature the mother, and I sometimes wonder if the mother would have matured as quickly in any other situation. Still, I’m always surprised by those, like Anonymous and Viva Vick, who admit they are actually jealous of those without an education having babies out of wed-lock. I realize the stigma against unmarried mothers is waning, but that doesn’t erase the fact that there are very good reasons to wait, for both the baby and the mother.