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so you arent in states? when will he back?

im in california, hes in new york right now.
anywhere from feb. to a year

u wont go to NY?

i cant because im working too

we’re both in the same buisness pretty much, and dont have a problem waiting.

i just wanna make him less jealous cause i know it hurts him

we’re just being like this since he’s far away right now
when we’re together it is peace hahah :)

my brother’s drunk friends. they’ll *** grab me and stuff and hes jealous+pissed cause they’re being disrespectful to me

Im a huge dis-believer in long distance relationships. Just till feb? That might work. But a year?! It wont happen.

u should at least have plans for the marriage, that would shorten the distance meanwhile! i guess

I’m going through the same thing hunn, and I’m going to tell you what not alot of other people are going to…

It ISN’T easy, and it’s not going to be.

If you love him, like you say you do, then you will both have to tough it out and get through it.

Call, write, and e-mail him as much as you can and always let him know you love him.

Just do what you would expect from him, do what you do because you love him, not just because you don’t want to hurt him… if he loves you too, he will wait, and he will do what is best for the both of you.

Know this… if things DON’T work out, and you two break… just remember that things aren’t ALWAYS going to go the way you think… and just because you can’t be together now doesn’t mean you won’t end up back together later… you just have to have patience… if somethings wrong, you’ll know it…. just don’t expect him to give up his job, don’t expect anything from him that he wouldn’t expect from you… you get where I’m going with this? Just talk to him and ALWAYS let each other know how you feel about each and every topic that’s bugging you… but don’t get angry, even if he does, keep your calm, and be understanding. If it’s truly Love, it can’t ever fail.. have a little faith in the both of you… and maybe in someone else too… okay? Trust me I know this isn’t easy and long distance relationships are TERRIBLE to deal with… but sometimes you both just need to make a compromise to make it work.. what are you really looking for… what do oyu REALLY want? … What does your heart tell you? Take it from me NEVER ignore the feeling form the heart! It will always do what’s best in guiding you… meanwhile… if you need anymore help.. here’s my e-mail okay? I don’t do this much but seeing as how we’re both in the same boat I feel I have a special connection to you… any time you need to tlak dear send me an e-mail okay? Best wishes to both of you, and I’m with you on the marrying thing… just make sure that you’re READY and don’t push it.. give him time to settle in and realize what needs to be done… rushing things scares them and ultimately could cause you to lose him… alright I’ll be going then! I hope you do well! I’ll be praying for you! God Bless!

I mean it about that e-mail! lol

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or try
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0908flemkate @ student.ednet.ns.ca

or

white-wolf.13 @ hotmail.com

LET yourself fall in Love with him. Maybe you were supposed to. What are your reasons for NOT going out with him? Look.
There are four things that could happen.

A) Forget all about him, don’t go out with him, don’t talk to him, become miserable without him, and possibly lose him forever.

B) Tell him, possibly break up sometime down the line, in which the worst that would happen is that you get hurt,(keep in mind there are good and bad sides to almost everything and although you’re meant to be things still won’t be perfect) you will eventually heal from it, and find the person you are REALLY meant for. Your experience in this relationship would still help you in learning and growing, and make you a better person, and you’ll have a better relationship with the man you are meant for. You lose some but you win also. Maybe you are meant for each other, just not yet.

Or C)…You can choose NOT to cut him out of your life… tell him how you feel… make one of the bravest, hardest, scariest choices you may ever make… and end up with with the one of the best things that has ever happened to you.

Don’t be like the rest of us, who are too afraid to admit or tell someone we love them, who spend our lives in alone, regretting, in worse pain than before. You will always have friends and family of some sort around, and that is an incredible blessing, but that doesn’t mean you should walk away. IF you are meant for this guy, things will work out one way or another, and I can promise you that so long as you have even just the tiniest grain of faith… it will work out the way it’s supposed to, you will have Love, you won’t lose. Because as long as you learn, or become better or stronger in some way from any experience, you will lose nothing but the pain and sadness you once had.

Take the advice, don’t make the mistake so many have… make the choice that is the best for YOU. Don’t worry about making others happy when it comes to Love, because they’re opinion doesn’t matter in this, you will only keep yourself from being happy if you do. When it comes to Love… fight for it.

I wish you all the best, I hope you make the right decision.
I almost didn’t….
And remember…

If you miss the train, it was going the wrong direction anyways, just wait for the next one.

Your Friend:
White Wolf.

Sorry about the novel-long reply. XP

what my friend does is take phone pictures of herself and send them to his phone. try doing that while your both away from eachother.