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. Its the most complex situation of my life. Around one year back I jonied a company and made some friends in my project. Initially everything was going very smooth we all were very much friendly with each other. But suddenly after 6 months one of the girl was move to other project. That was the only time when I realise I loved her. After that I started behaving diffrently with her. Being too much possesive and over caring for her. I dint told her that I love her but I think she know it. And indirectly many times she has told also that dont give too much importance to me.
In my life I have never being soo much bothere, so much caring so much concerned for anyone. anything she says I do it. But she is least concerned about me. Dont know what to do. should I tell her that I love her or should I move away from her. Because what I am doing now is ruining my life. Always thinking about here, taking unnecessary tension and spoiling my mood.

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chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

Its seems pretty clear that you know the answer already…

She has told you she isn’t interested.
It is ruining you life.

So, the question seems not to be “should I tell her I love her” but more, “how do I get over her?”

Love, it makes us dumb, myself included.

Can you really see any way through this to a happy relationship with her? If not, then get your self clear for a while before things get worse.

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kforhel offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Ya thats true …. love make us dumb… we know it whatever we are doing is not correct…. but cannot control it. this bllody heart take control of every thing….
We are very very good friends sometime I feel that may be she is restricting herself in accepting that she also like me and in the process she treat me like I am not at all important……….
But staying in the same company …Its impossible for me to go away from her…….
I want to leave this job… but cannot… atlest at this point of time…

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chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (44 minutes after post)

Either way, with her or without, you need to get away from the “is ruining my life. Always thinking about here, taking unnecessary tension and spoiling my mood.”

Would you want to date someone like that?

Whats your out? You have a sport?

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