friends help: I know where my depression stems from… - Help.com

It is healthy to want friendships. It is completely understandable that you miss a connection to someone. It sounded like your friend who is going to be taken away was a good start to another friendship (is it possible that the two of you could write each other or email-I think this would help you feel that you still have someone out there). In the meantime you need to get yourself some books on how to befriend people like “How to Mingle.” I don’t know where you live but you might want to check out meetup.com to meet with people with similar interests. The thing with friends is it takes a long time to forge a trustworthy solid connection…and I think it’s easier for women to do this. I think the happy being alone thing is the ability to be content and happy with yourself while you aren’t with other people. I don’t think many people are stoked happy ape $#@^ by themselves (truly by themselves with no friends).

Thank you for taking time to answer back to me! I honestly do appreciate it

people need interaction and company.tho i agree with you,sometimes i wonder would it all be easier if u didnt have anyone to have to please or whatever.my best advice for making new friends,go back to basics.what inspires u? what do u like doing? i play soccer adn ive always made friends thru sport.its a common ground.

Its perfectly normal to want friends and company. Humans are naturally really social creatures; we enjoy the company of others more so than many other creatures. My best advice is to try to be more open and make new friends. Talk to more people and share your interests. Good luck :D

1) Well, the good thing is that the problem has been identified.

2) You can’t fix it as immediately as like pressing a button or solving it with money BUT at least you can take measures to face the problem and increase the possibilities to meet new ppl. For example:
- well depending on how old are you you can try to join social groups, like going to a gym, to your church, or boyscouts, or taking short courses where you’ll meet other ppl, going volunteer.. I don’t know, it’s up to you to think how you can socialize more..

3) You can take other measures to make it easier for yourself to bear the present situation. Maybe get a young pet, try new things, like reading cool books, downloading music you’ve never heard.. cycling, walking, punching bags,… whenever you start feeling down.. just try to do something new and stay active

Life is like a game of chess, you have to try to find solutions with actions and decisions whenever you feel cornered there are always different ways to face the problems..

Good luck :)

Couchsurfing.org is a great way to meet new people. I totally agree about this feeling. I lost two boyfriends and although I have female friends I don’t have anyone who really knows me as I’ve moved around a lot. I lack any stability in my life. Losing the people I was intimate with was awful, just a rejection of the essential me, because they were the only people who knew the essential me. I like what Maury says about there being different solutions. Not sure I agree with getting a pet unless you are sure you have time, patience etc.