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Is it bad that I am 22, don’t have friends, don’t have a boyfriend, still live with my parents, and have no life?

I work, but only part-time and I come home and do nothing but watch tv the rest of the day? I’m not in school either, because I already have the job I’m going to have for the rest of my life. What should I do?

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resurgam offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Try to get a full-time job, get to know people there, try to make some friends. You could always take a few language-courses or something, you learn something valuable and you might meet some new people. Or maybe you could volunteer for some charity-related organization or such.
Are you sure you have no friends at all?

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11 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

I work with people who are in their mid 30’s, 40’s, and some in their 50’s. They are all females. There is on girl who is 24, another who is 27, and 1 guy that is like 24 I think. I don’t really hang out with them though, they have their own lives. I haven’t spoke to my freidns from high school since I was like 19.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

Ill be your friend…my email is i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>

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tjwoods offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

It sounds like you are feeling dissatisfied with your life, or I don’t think you would be asking this question. Your life sounds comfortable, but not especially challenging or fulfilling. One thing to consider is that you may want to be prepared for times when things change; for example, don’t depend on your current job being there forever.

People are generally social by nature. If you are genuinely happy with your situation there isn’t anything really wrong with it, but it is likely that your isolation will cause some problems for you later on. For example, when something bad happens you may want someone other than your parents around for support. It is very rewarding to be able to help and support others as well (which is why this site can exist!), and it sounds like you are missing out on that. If you are concerned about your isolation, school is a really great place to meet people and expand your options in life.

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Barbyman offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 29 minutes after post)

why not go out a little bit more !!! go to places you can meet people ,like a gallery,like theater,like exhibitions ,antiques, shows.No good complaining if you not doing things.Get out of your shell come on Do it…

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stuck offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 14 minutes after post)

when i was 21 i was in the same situation as you i worked full time but i did not have a life i went to work and came home watched tv spoke to strangers online the only time i went out was with my mum. Alot happened stuff im not proud off but i ended up hurting someone i really loved through my unhappiness in my life. Now im 23 i still with my parents i still work full time but i have a active social life really good friends for the first time ever i have dreams and goals i know where i wanna be in 5 years times. I dont have a boyfriend but at this min i dont want one i wanna concentrate on me do what i wanna do. My advice to you would be ask someone u work with out for a friendly drink or join a night school. There is nothing wrong with living with ur parents.

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Huwith offline Verified User (11 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 20 minutes after post)

What do you want in life? Do you want to sit at home with your parents watching tv or do you want a different job or a boyfriend or what?
Decide on what you want to have in your life it could be any of those things or something very different like teaching english in Napal next year. When you have decided what you want then you can start to go for it and that will pull you out of the rut you are experiencing at the moment.

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