Love help: why does my boyfriend make out that he doesnt love me on a profile of his..that my friends can view..? - Help.com

maybe he doesn’t love you… how long have you been together and how old are you?

maybe he feels a little awkward???
hes a guy,guys dont put slushy things on for all to see

why should it matter anyway?
you know he loves you..right?
then let the guy have his fun,hes only trying to sound macho :)

you could always play him at his own game!

It’s hard to help without really knowing what he’s put on there. Is it actually mean or does he just not write out that he loves you? If this is something that is really bothering you, not because of what your friends might think but because it’s really hurtful to you, then you need to talk to him about it. He’s the only person who can really explain what he is thinking. Sorry I couldn’t help more! Good luck :)

I don’t know your boyfriend, but he sounds like a jerk. I think if he says he doesn’t love you he is at least not very serious about your relationship. I’d say cut him loose and give him some time to grow up — you have better things to do with your time and energy than spend them on an immature guy.

evansent wrote:
maybe he feels a little awkward???
hes a guy,guys dont put slushy things on for all to see

why should it matter anyway?
you know he loves you..right?
then let the guy have his fun,hes only trying to sound macho :)

you could always play him at his own game!

Oh so true. :P

i’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and i’m 25.

no-matter what i do, he is never happy.

i’m not aloud to go back to college, as he says its not aloud, i’m not aloud to work, have any hobbies.

i dont see my friends anymore, as i never have enough money to get into town and see them.

i’m fed up with doing all the house work around here, he wont even help do the dishes.. he’ll leave them for me to do, and when i’m not feeling very well, they stack up, and he wont even give me a hand to do them.

at the moment he’s out somewhere? i have no idea where, as he went out while i was asleep.

i felt funny last night because i’d taken the PILL, and it made me go wappy, so i’ll have to stop taking them again. argh!

my life feels so empty at the moment, because he’s making out i’m horried, and he doesnt love me, aka he says he doesnt love me.

i wish i could get away from here for alittle bit, just to find myself again..
as my hopes and dreams died long ago and his took over.

I’m not aloud to do anything, and if i don’t do the dishes, he’ll take the sky card away, and the internet, until i do them, i don’t get anything.. how degrading is that?!

what am i doing? do i sound mad to you lot? or something.. as him and his mother think i’m mental.. and they say so. :(

each day i go no-where, unless he takes me out in the car.. i’ve lost myself and i hate it.

i’ve go no, get up and go anymore, no erge.

what should i do? as i don’t know anymore.. all i think is, what he thinks and what he thinks is right and wrong.

if i went out now, he’d prob phone me and tell me not to come back, as he’s said that before, ages ago.

i’m going now before he gets back, and he’ll start telling me what to do again..
(why havent you done the dishes you dirty c**t)

but he wont do them..

You do not deserve to be treated that way. Get away from this guy now, while you are still young.

We are all mental sometimes, and we all need help sometimes. He can only control you if you let him, but people who are controlling have ways of breaking us down, making us feel worthless, to keep us from getting out of their control. You already took the first step of talking to someone and asking for help, and you can keep going.

Change is scary, especially when we have gotten used to something, but in your case you have a whole lot to gain. As long as you are around this guy he will continue to make you feel bad about yourself so that he can control you. Once you get away you will be able to start hearing your own voice again.

The next thing you have to do is to make a decision to get out of this relationship. Say it out loud to yourself if you are somewhere private. Then think about what you need to do to carry out your decision. If you don’t have somewhere to go, there are many women’s shelters that can provide you with shelter (and protection, if you think he has the potential for violence) while you make other plans.

Recovering from a relationship like this takes time, and it really helps to have someone to talk to like a minister or a therapist who has seen people in similar situations. We are shaped by the people around us, and after being in emotionally abusive relationship we usually need help getting back to being ourselves again.

Wow, i agree with tj. you need to leave this loser.

ok,anon if your there,you&i need a serious talk!

sounds like your in danger girl!

give me a shout,ok!!!

he’s controlling you and everything you do. you need to get out of there and go somewhere where you can breathe and make decisions and come alive again. do you have family that you can go stay with? Or friends? you really need to leave this guy. i’d love to add you as a friend but you are anonymous. you can add me as a friend if you want to. i’d love to check and see how you are doing. we’re here for you.

Can i just ask you, who pays the bills? most likely him because he wont let u work which means you have no income of your own and if you have no income your dependant on him and hes using that against you!

Firstly, you really need to sort your personal life out you are going to go insane from what you are saying it seems that you have no social life. About this profile thing thats teenage stuff so it shouldnt really matter, but then again i think you should question it does he spend alot of time on there? is he secretive? is he always on the phone? walks out when hes on the phone so you cant hear his conversation? if he does have you thought about finding out why he spends so much time on there? who hes talking to? and why he cant do it in front of you?

Secondly, im sorry to say this harshly right and believe me i know it is hard to stand upto to a guy who’s so manipulative and controlling but you have got to realise that you are 25 you are not a BABY. Your a grown women you have the ability to look after yourself so why the hell are you putting up with this?

He dont cook or clean, so leave it why should you have to do it? ok so he feels he can take way the internet and your sky what are you 10? find another way to entertain yourself? Read a book, pamper yourself if you tried you could find a million ways to keep yourself company but you just want to sit around and mope about how depressed and down you feel.

Apply for Jobseekers Allowance, im sure you are aware you can do it online but dont tell him about it and i bet you can apply for other benefits aswell, work from home? find a job you can do online sitting at home how is he to know? just delete the site history and cookies.

Take up a course that you can do at home no need to go college? Darling where theres a will theres a way, there is so much more to life than what your settling for. Your talking about degrading have you thought to yourself the only reason he makes you feel this way and puts you down is simply because you let him. Dont allow him to tell you what to do you are your own person with a mind of your own.

Anyway I think you need to gain your independance back, start loving yourself again work on your confidence and self esteem. Tell yourself you deserve better and you are an admirable women that has dreams and ambitions of your own which you will pursue no matter what stands in your way. Tell him you aint going to put up with his **** no more if he tells you to leave then to hell with him, your better of without a guy that makes you feel like your nobody. your young you still need to enjoy life dont settle for ******** just because you feel you wont find anything better. do yourself a favour GET YOUR LIFE BACK!!

I wish you the very best, do what you feel is right for you! put yourself first for once, rely on your gut instincts and believe me they will guide you to the right place. I hope that this helped. :)

Ced col just bcause of those reasons you cannot say he does not love her its just that hes a very controlling and abusive partner?