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What would you do in my position?

My Girlfriend and I have been together for awhile but we dont get to be together much because her friends dont like me to much and i dont really understand why and she gets mad when i try to bring it up. I want to be with her but i feel like we are in a long distance realtionship. Im not sure what to do. I never get to see her or talk to her much but she seems fine with it.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 131 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Sounds like she wants you to find another girlfriend and you should too!

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Jamiee offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

If I were you I would try and talk to her and explain how you’re feeling. And see if that works.. If it doesn’t work…I would consider ending the relationship.

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tech455 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

I know her and thats not what she wants dont ask how but i know

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I want out offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

looks like she has moved on :(

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jasons_babygirl1 offline Verified User (11 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Well if she really liked you as much as you her friends shouldnt effect the way she is with you, and she has probably moved on and honestly so should you nobody should be treated like that

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tech455 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

she hasnt moved on she jus says that she has been hurt alot and shes afraid of gettin close to me i think her friends r just a excuse for her

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jasons_babygirl1 offline Verified User (11 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

they probably are, and if she is afraid of getting close to you or any guy for that matter you have to reasure her that she can trust you.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 131 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

You and her need to have a heart to heart. A long sit down conversation as to why she behaves like that and she should be clear to you as to where she thinks this relationship is headed. While you may know her and think that she does not want to break up, she sure is sending you the wrong signals. If you put up with this now that the relationship is at its early stages, what will you be willing to put up with once the relationship progresses and becomes more mature? You need to put your foot down and tell her. Are you afraid of hurting her feelings? Because she sure is not afraid to hurt yours!

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 131 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

Any person treated me the way this woman treats you, I would have been gone a long time ago looking for better people and better horizons. How much are you willing to put up with?

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 131 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

Hello, anon are you here?

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 131 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

*Sigh* *littlenick goes back to his corner*

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Jamiee offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

You really do just need to talk to her. You need to help her trust you and also make her realise that she can’t treat you like this. It’s only supposed to be you and her in this relationship, so it’s not right for her to use her friends as an excuse. Obviously she still has to spend time with her friends but if she really feels anything for you, she would want to spend time with you aswell.

Personally I really don’t think she sounds that into your relationship. Sorry honey.

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tech455 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

Thanks for the help

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