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I feel much to inadequate all too often.

I have friends, but do not connect when im in a larger group. Its an extremely painful situation, as i seem to lose confidence and can no longer be myself around these people. Its not just with this group, as it seems to occur whenever i meet up with people. Even my family. Of course, it always gets better after a while, but im deathly afraid of the next round that reemerges soon afterwards. Its an issue with confidence, and maybe personality. Im afraid that it will be an issue for my entire life: something holding me back. Is there something wrong with me?

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resurgam offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (5 minutes after post)

There’s nothing WRONG with you. It’s just a part of you, you need to learn to stop worrying about what people think of you, and stop caring so much about how you perform… I’m assuming you do, I could be wrong though, but that’s usually the case.
You could go see someone and talk about it, or you could deal with it yourself. The only thing you NEED to get rid of is the pain involved in it, I think, the shyness is just part of your personality.

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LoneSoldier offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (12 minutes after post)

one of the most difficult things i deal with is keeping good friends. I really have no issue making friends. One moment i will be cheery and talkative, but the next i will feel as if the entire world is crashing in on me.
Im afraid that the friends who are used to seeing the good side of me will judge me by this hesitation. It has happened before, and every time i worry that they will move away from me. Yes, i am naturally shy. And yes, i do care too much about what other people think of me. Im working hard to value their opinions less, but it is extremely difficult to stand up for myself. At least for now…
If you were to ask my friends about me, they would probably describe me as a nice guy, a bit on the shy side at times. But i dont want to be shy. I want to stand for something and not be held back by anyone who doesnt believe in me. Its learning how to do this that i cant figure out

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1 year ago (13 minutes after post)

one of the most difficult things i deal with is keeping good friends. I really have no issue making friends. One moment i will be cheery and talkative, but the next i will feel as if the entire world is crashing in on me.
Im afraid that the friends who are used to seeing the good side of me will judge me by this hesitation. It has happened before, and every time i worry that they will move away from me. Yes, i am naturally shy. And yes, i do care too much about what other people think of me. Im working hard to value their opinions less, but it is extremely difficult to stand up for myself. At least for now…
If you were to ask my friends about me, they would probably describe me as a nice guy, a bit on the shy side at times. But i dont want to be shy. I want to stand for something and not be held back by anyone who doesnt believe in me. Its learning how to do this that i cant figure out

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bini0 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

it is easy..just admit it in your daily actions. Like tell others your shy..through time..you ll completely lose your natural shyness: but I am surprised why should we care about others..at the end of the day ..you are alone:>

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