life help: this is my undeniable truth.say wat u will about it. - Help.com

hey if you want to express yourself with “emo” go for it its your life do it the way you want it…just cutting,which im not saying your going to do, is not going to help you

been there. done that.

may i ask how old you are?

you know what, you dont have to choose any of those paths. you’re just lost right now and looking for a simple solution. please believe me, there is much more to living. i agree, all to often everything seems hopeless. a big reason for that is because you have no definite direction in life. what is it that you like to do? if im right, it will take you a while to think of what truly gives you pleasure. all we need is a goal to be working towards. something that will keep us moving at all times and accomplishing something great. Im going to take another guess and say that much of your time is spent thinking or doing nothing. if this is the case, again, you MUST find something you are passionate about in this world. please write back

Life will turn around for u ..just wait…just when u think it’s really bad something good always happens :)

I’m not sick!

i’m 20. found something in life that makes me happy. but it was taken away from me. so whats the point?

What was that?
The thing that got taken from you?

love

Could you be more specific?
Are you talking about a failed relationship?

something bad happened to her that made her break up with me.

This thing had nothing to do with you I assume.
As in it was not your fault?

I won’t ask what the thing is, because I think I can guess.

ur right. had nothing to do with me. but it mesed her up emotinoally so she told me we should just be friends.i doubt i can keep doing that.

Do you blame yourself in some way for what happened?
By which I mean, do you feel angry because you feel that you could have prevented it in some way?

Idk. i wsh i could have protecter her, but i wasn’t anywhere near when it happened.

I thought so.

These sorts of situations are really difficult to deal with.
And you find yourself going a little crazy thinking about the “what ifs?”

Is she getting any emotional help for the situation?

at first she trusted no1. i tihnk i’m getting her to retrust me.but idk how she feels about me anymore.so no. the only help she has are from me and a few other friends

I suppose the best you can do is be supportive and patient.
I know that is very frustrating.

But at this point I think you need to do that.
It is obviously hurting you very deeply, and my heart goes out to both of you.

With a little patience, and some care, you may be able to convince her to get some counselling in time.

Please be patient about this.
I know its hard, but for a while you will have to put your own feelings aside if you want to help her.

In the meantime, you can always talk about how you feel, and how its effecting you on this site :)

i put my feelings into songs.lol. i don’t like my own songs but they help at times.

That is a really good way to deal with your emotions.
I think it is a good thing. :)

And it is far better than becoming violent and aggresive and picking fights with strangers in pubs.

A friend of mine, who was in an abusive relationship used to get drunk and punch steel poles in the street. It was months before she admitted what was really going on. And by that time it was too late, because the offender is now in another country!

I still worry about me friend even today.
She has a new boyfriend who is loving and kind, and yet there are rumours that she self harms.

And I have spotted fading scars on her arms when she’s not looking.

I encourage you to vent creatively. :)

any other ideas. becuse my songs don’t work as much

What other interests do you have creatively?

nothing comes to mind

Do you sketch, paint, write fiction? anything like that?

used to write. not so much anymore

Start writing again :D

I always find it helps :)

got nothing to write about.

Maybe if you wrote about what’s going on now.
Just keep it somewhere safe, because of the sensitive nature of the material!

maybe. idk.