Boy help: Boys scare me.

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Boys scare me.

No, I’m not a lesbian, I just want to make a good impression. I want a boy to like me and think I’m wonderful and pretty and have a good head on my choulders, but I’m not the quickest when it comes to comebacks or small talks. Another thing, how do I get over the fear of going on a date? I’m scared s***less about going on a date and not having anything good to say. I don’t like the awkward silences and sometimes if someone makes a joke and I don’t get it, I just kind of laugh like an idiot and totally humiliate myself. I just want to be liked by a boy. I feel like I may never find a boy. People always say that “it’ll happen when you least expect it”, but I just have that gut feeling that I’m going to be alone. :(

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veg_head 6 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Don’t feel bad I know what you’re going through. Just relax, laugh at yourself if you do something embarassing, and don’t be afraid to admit it if something goes over your head. you’ll come across a lot more confidently if you don’t try to act like you’re concerned about the way you look. And there’s nothing worse, for me, at least, than getting caught pretending to know something.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

I think you underestimate yourself. Especially as a woman. Remember this one simple rule: BOYS LIKE GIRLS. (Unless they like boys. But then young gay men are unlikely to go out on dates with you!) I guarantee unless you have an arm where you nose should be, there are boys who find you attractive, and would date you.
So to avoid too many awkward silences just try to date guys who have at least SOME common interests as you - be it music, sports, dancing, other cultural pursuits, etc. They don’t have to be just like you - just have a couple of things in common. In fact, having a few differences keeps the relationship interesting - you end up learning from each other, which can be an exhilerating experience.
Speaking of which, there’s one other thing to remember: be a good listener. Anyone likes anyone who appears to be genuinely interested in them.
Good luck. Be confident. Respect yourself. Have fun!

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chev.jame 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

Silly girl! The BOY is the one who is scared witless! He has to work up his courage just to call you. He is cringing as he does so, because he’s afraid you may reject him outright. When you do go out with him, he is worried that you may not want to go on a second date; on the second date, he is worried you might not want to go on a third; on the third date he worries if he should kiss you or not–he worries that if he tries, you will reject him, and he worries that if he doesn’t try, you will think he’s not romantic and dump him.

Guys put on a show of bravado, because our egos are very fragile. A woman can destroy our self-esteem in a nanosecond!

The boy will always be wondering if he is doing the right thing. He will be watching the girl for cues that he is on the right track. He knows that he can say or do just one stupid thing and be dumped.

Naw, kid, you hold ALL the power! ;-)

(>'')>~~~Kyle 6 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

Hah, you sound just like me. We should have a get together lol. I’ve never even been on a date either :S. I’m 16

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*Dougie* 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 31 minutes after post)

Don’t worry about dates.
Not everyone forms relationsships by going on dates.
dates can be very high-pressure. And if you don’t feel like dealing with that pressure, there are other ways of going about this, that are far more casual and relaxed.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 11 minutes after post)

dates can be so fake. Just do something you like with guy you like.

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