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I have two super hot, really sweet best friends.

My problem is EVERY TIME a guy is interested in me, once they meet my friends they ALWAYS get a crush on one of them and start to pursue them instead of me. I hate it, it gets so frustrating. I get so jealous of them, but I can’t really be mad at them because it’s not really their fault…what can I do? I can’t just not introduce guys to them, they’re always around…

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angel♥ offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 36 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 minute after post)

AHH! i have the exact same problem! they’ll like me but then they meet my friends and then slowly start to ignore me and like my friends. soooo annoying!

i share your pain and frustration! sorry i couldnt help though! =/

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

that sucks :( Maybe you should try telling your friends if a guy is off limits; they may be flirting with them without getting that you like the guy. if you trust your friends are real friends you can trust them not to betray you.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Its actually a good thing.
Because any guys that will go for ‘the hot’ girls, are probably too shallow and need not be bothered with in the first place.

Think of your ‘hotter’ friends as a ‘genuine-ometer’!
They are really helping you to sort out the shallow guys from the nicer ones.

Any guy that will automatically go for the ‘hotter’ girls, is clearly only interested in physical appearance, and getting into a girls pants!

A decent guy if he meets you, and has already taken a liking to you, is unlikely to suddenly lose all interest and go for someone else, if he is genuine.

there is a positive in all this!

Your friends are doing you a favour.
And as long as you don’t hold a grudge against them for something they can’t help, then really I don’t see the problem!

Although I feel sorry for your friends if they are being pursued by shallow as*holes!

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

I think veg_head’s advice is correct. Enlist their cooperation. Maybe if they meet your new guy, they can act like total jerks (a big act) and “abandon” the two of you so you can spend some time together. IF they are your friends, they will help you. If not, hmmmm, maybe they ain’t the best friends you thought they were.
Good luck

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

Thanks for your advice Dougie, but the friends AREN’T just hot. They are also really sweet so it’s not just shallow guys that like them. Nice guys go for them too :/

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

My point is about if they change their interest from you to your friends after meeting them! That is shallow.

I wasn’t suggesting there’s anything wrong with guys that for other reasons are interested in your friends and not you to begin with.

Because that would be like saying your friends don’t deserve to have guys interested in them. And you do more.

Nah!

But I think if a guy shows a lot of interest in you, and then suddenly doesn’t because of one of your friends. He’s probably not worth going out with.

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