Love help: Daddy daughter problems. - Help.com

Dads can be hard to love. Mine was.

I hate smoking, too, but . . . he is who he is. And he may still be “smarting” from the treatment you gave him when you were a teen. Also, you were not going to talk about “girl” things with your father. However, daughters are normally close to their fathers. It is their fathers who provide them with their first “male approval.”

Why do you think you couldn’t be close to him?

You want what he wants. You just said as much. Therefore I do not think there is all that much to worry for, because if you both do in fact want a better relationship, I would be one to say that you will get a better relationship. Only it will not happen overnight, obviously.

So I just want to reassure you, for whatever a stranger’s reassurance is worth. One day you’ll be laughing with him and you’ll realize you have the relationship you both have been seeking.

I love my father so much and would trade anything to have him with me today. He died 15 years ago, when I was just 13. My point?

It is so wonderful to have a dad. And once you’ve lost him you cannot bring back time nor trade anything to be with him. Not until you’re dead maybe. So don’t lose that opportunity while you still have him. I guess you have to be open in your communications with him, without being disrespectful to understand each other more. Don’t lose that chance to show him how much you love and care for him and vice-versa. You are still lucky to still have a father. Many aren’t that luck anymore. While others never did have a father.