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Dating advice

Hi, I have this female friend that over the past few months my feelings toward her is growing, over this time we have been getting know each other more and more, I have slipped the odd time that I quite like her to her when we catch up, and she has mentioned that she quite likes spending time with me and values it. I’m just curious of what things females like to see a guy do that sets him apart from the rest - like I don’t really want to do the standard dinner or night at the movies, I have pretty much just started on the dating scene, if you have any tips…

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*Dougie* offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Be yourself.
No need to try and stand out from the rest.
At the end of the day, its better is she likes you for you.
Don’t panic and suddenly think you have to be extraordinary to impress her.

I imagine that the classics still apply though.
Be yourself.
Be a gentleman.

Also, ask her where she would like to go and what she would like to do?

Pretty simple really ;)

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Anonymous #
11 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

skating. fun. different. i dont know.

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*Dougie* offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Just ask her :)

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Victoria Sponge offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Fritwell, K2, GB | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 38 minutes after post)

Like Dougies said be yourself, I once dated this guy who took me to the zoo and on the London Eye and to the London Dungeons every date we had got more exciting, when we finally sat down and tried to have a normal date we really didn’t have too much in common he was for to busy trying to impress me rather than trying to get to know me better, do something you will both enjoy together but also where you have time to sit and get to know each other

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*Dougie* offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

Cakes is correct.
A friend of mine, who loved his wife very dearly, once said to me.
It wouldn’t matter if we were together in room folding boxes, so long as we were together and in the same room.

The company is important, not so much the location!

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*Dougie* offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 48 minutes after post)

Or the activity!

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Victoria Sponge offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Fritwell, K2, GB | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 54 minutes after post)

Thats so true, with the right person the most awful task could be a huge amount of fun

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*Dougie* offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Especially if you take Mary Poppins on the date as a chaparone!
;)
Sorry couldn’t resist!

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mssabrina offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (4 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Well the thing to do is communicate with the lady you’re dating. Everyone has different feeling about relationship. We can advise you with thing that we would do, it is about you and the lady you care for.

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~Grace~ offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (9 hours, 36 minutes after post)

Dougie the Pisces wrote:
Especially if you take Mary Poppins on the date as a chaparone!
;)
Sorry couldn’t resist!

Lmao.

I have nothing more to add to that, I just had to contribute a giggle.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

just heed this advice…when you do take this lovely lady out (from my point of view, the location doesn’t matter it’s because it’s all about the company!) Don’t be flashy but it IS nice to offer to pay. Wherever you go…keep her WARM and fed. Find out beforehand if she’s veggie or tee total or anything and work around that. ps food isn’t good if she’s not into food! Better to ask some probing Q’s to get the 1st date right but it’s essential that the venue is neutral. I think an art exhibition(or equivalent) in the early evening, followed by a pre-dinner drink is perfect, as an exhibition gives the main bulk of discussion.
But what is she into, maybe she’d prefer Speedway or an invite to a party or event??? do your homework! have fun!!

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

TOP TIP!
I didn’t say before but personally i am an absolute sucker for flowers, because I have a continuing love affair with roses, I am obsessed with them and if ANY guy sent me roses i’d HAVE to know who he was, even if he was really hideous, i’d probably still try and like him because i’d feel we had some connection!!!! some girl friends of mine think that flowers are only beautiful on the bush and some others would put them straight in the bin to save looking after them, and therefore,
My TOP TIP is…
Find out her passion…secretly, if you can, and then WOW her with something she’ll love. I am really excited for you! i love being in love! Good Luck.

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