Love help: I’m an 15 years old boy and i love this girl who’s - Help.com

Well what do you like about her?

It’s been awhile since I was 16, but I have had the “I just like you as a friend” conversation many times. My advice is to be friends with her. She knows how you feel and she will either grow to feel the same or not. You can’t force her. Don’t do things for her like a boyfriend would though. Do things that a friend would do. If you go somewhere, let her pay for herself. Don’t try to plan romantic outings or buy her things you wouldn’t buy for a “normal” friend. You could make her nervous or you could make her think she can get all the “perks” of a romantic relationship while she continues to be romantically interested in other people or even date other people. You don’t want to get into the situation where you are treating her like a girlfriend and she is not treating you like a boyfriend. That will be hurtful and frustrating for you.

well she’s different then other girls i’ve met before when i talk with her i really have the feeling she understands me and she’s so nice to everyone i admire that its difficult to say exactly what it is lets say almost everything about her

thats what i thought also thats why i wanted to get her out of my head because i thought that it would be easier for me to just treat her as an friend but its now also hurtful and frustrating for me im lets say an thinker im just thinking that it might be that she will never feal something for me and that she might be going to love someone else and that kind of things i know i shouldn’t do that but thats who i am i just think before i do something maybe thats why im having it so difficult because i think about everything

I have a friend who is going through something similar right now. He is really interested in a girl who he really cares about. I don’t have any suggestions for how you can get over her, but I wouldn’t want you to take the road he has.

He buys her gifts, concert tickets, prepares picnics with her favorite foods when she’s had a bad day and is always there for her when she has a problem. When he takes her to concerts or out-of-town events, he pays for the food, gas and hotel rooms. He even gets up in the middle of the night to pick her up after she’s been drinking so that he can drive her home safely.

She continues to date whoever she wants and repeatedly tells him that she wants to be “just friends”. He is always there for her when her other relationships end badly, but she has even angrily left him alone at a picnic he planned just to cheer her up about some family problems. She claimed she was annoyed that he was still trying to be romantic with her.

I’ve had friends that became “more than friends” after time had passed. I’ve also had friends that stayed “just friends” even though the guy wanted a romantic relationship with me. Sometimes romance can develop, but sometimes it just isn’t there and never will be. It’s no fun that way, but you can’t force it.