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I think you should talk to her about it, share your feelings about her attitude towards you.

I don’t want to give you false hope as the only way you can know for sure is to talk to her, I recently have been feeling a little neglected by my boyfriend so I got a lovely new work wardrobe and played a little hard to get, he has been so much more attentive, have you been treating her well lately?
Talk to her tho for your own piece of mind

I mean talking to her is the only way to figure it out. Honestly she is busy and going through a tough time. She is experiencing something new and different, its a reall confusing time for most people, i’m sure things are fine, she just needs to get settled with what she is doing. Yeah the dressing up is weird, but i never wore make up for my ex until i got my new job where i wore it all the time for. It didn’t really have anything to do with him, ijust felt more confident wearing it there, because i was so comfortable with him, i felt it didn’t matter.

but did you end up talking to her, but at times talking can put a doubt in her mind and she might think you just don’t trust her. i’m all for the face to face confrontation but that does happen. also i think when one is in a relationship the best way for it to end up working or lasting is if their to independent people i mean i don’t know. maybe addressing the matter with her will be much better and i do hope it ends well for you:)

just talk to her to be honest when a guy does not tell you how he is feeling as a woman its drives us crazy we are not mind readers but we know when something is wrong just ask her

Sometimes lovers grow apart.
It is natural.

I wouldn’t complain that she didn’t give you a kiss goodbye.
She said ‘I love you’ didn’t she?

Worrying over a goodbye kiss is trivial, especially if she is running late for a new job. It sounds like you are getting frustrated because the routine of the relationship has changed, because your girlfriend’s life routine has changed!

If you are feeling this way… find some ways to spice it up a bit! ;)

Just tell her the truth. Don’t be harsh, but straightforward with your thoughts.

Hi there! this is a new idea but you say you have been together for 4 1/2 years? so you know this girl really well. If she still says ‘i love you’ and you been faithful to each other for all this time then she deserves your trust. I think that she is probably just developing other facets of her personality and maybe college has been a catalyst. It’s my belief that long term relationships only work when there is enough room to grow. (Not apart you understand.) I think maybe she will start to feel as though she’s outgrowing you unless you give her some encouragment! Stop questioning her new look and tell her she looks fab! why don’t you experiment with a new look yourself just to show you can keep up the pace? She’ll soon be more like the girl you feel you’re losing if she sees that you can be flexible. If you seriously think her feelings are waning why not suggest a night out with her new friends? therefore you can strat to integrate into her new social network.
This sounds like a delicate situation and i think you need to show her that you trust her, you love her and you are **** proud that she’s your girl! and most of all that she’s happy.
You sound like a lovely, sensitive guy. I’m sure that she knows how lucky she is to have you. Good luck to you both!