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No way. You are very patient. If any man ever talks to my son like that, I’ll back hand him fair in the mouth.

Boys are boys. It is a simple fact of life, that they get up to mischief as teens. The majority grow up and know right from wrong. He won’t be damaged for life because he hung out with some bad guys.

That is what I said we all drank as teenagers this is not anything new and him of all people an alcoholic who lives in his mom’s basement at 40 is last one who should sit in judgment of anyone!! Granted it was not my proudest moment as amother but it happened so now I ahve to deal with it!! What should I do about the boyfriend thing?

yep, you are wrong, you must be your son’s guidance till he’s under age,

I think ur son should be priority. Make sure he is ok and knows that you dont quite agree with what ur boyfriend said. Keep the communications open with ur son, so he knows he can come to you for help.

I guess I would tell the boyfriend to relax so you can handle it. I think yelling is ok as long as its not really angry, but telling someone that they are a f*** up is not going to help…. so yeah I would tell your boyfriend to relax and dont get worked up.

Not sure about the boyfriend, he sounds pretty rough being an alcoholic!(sorry, not trying to judge as Im not perfect either, just telling you what I think)!

A!ain Iam wrong???? About what.
Maveric I have always had an open relationship with my son he tells me everything and i know he will continue to as I said not my proudest moment as his mother.
I just don’t understand the judgment coming from my boyfriend he lives in his mothers basement and is an alcoholic and was horrible in high school shouldn’t he be more understanding not get up on his high horse of judgment??

Yeah… you would think they would be more understanding. Well, maybe he just didnt think it through when he blurted that stuff out. Or maybe he doesnt want your son to end up like him. Or maybe he was just trying to help you.

Its hard to interpret why someone does something cos there can be so many different possibilities.

He says that kind of stuff all the time about my kids!! He thinks he is the greatest thing to ever grace the planet earth so I don’t think it is because he does not want him to end up like because he thinks he is great!!!

how does this affect on your child?

Well we have talked about it a few times and he says that it bothers him because he does not have his life together at all and he judges eveyone else.

could ya have a deal with your son to let out what he’s doing if you broke up with man?

I could try that so you think that this man is a waste of time?

i can’t judge this man but i’m saying what looks to me better for your son

I think you maybe right!

you said it’s the first and their is two other boys, did you ask your self if one has cosed so many troubles how much can 3 do if they go the same way?

Well of course I have asked that question before I am doing everything I can it is hard being a single mother.

sorry for the question bur how old are you?

I am 37.

and your oldest and youngest sons?

15,14,12

so they will understand if you will marry but try to find the right man

I don;t think this one is it!

no problem

good luck, i really wish good luck for you

time to go

Thank you!!