friends help: I don’t have any “close” friends…. - Help.com

“I used to have pretty close friends, but I kind of left them because they aren’t really cool, and I really need to be friends with cool people.”

That sentence is pretty much the core of your problem. Stop being so shallow and you’ll have more real friends. You said so yourself that you used to.

You make life fun, you don’t wait around and wait for something fun to happen. If you keep dropping friends that you do have, you will eventually have none at all. People aren’t keen to be friends with people who will drop them for someone else who they think is “cooler”.

Even if its only one of the cool people at first. You gotta start talking to develop relationships with ppl.Even if its only one of the cool people at first. Being quiet is ok cuz your probably a good listener but voice your opinion, bring up other topics to talk about and try to ask questions you’ll find out more about them and you guys can hopefully find common interests.

Your friend that like to hang out with you isn’t in the cool bunch I wouldn’t really be to worry about it, I rather have a true friend then someone that just in the “cool gang”. because if something happens to you or if you needed help in the middle of the night who would really truely be there for you someone cool gang or a true friend….

jsd is right, stop worry about who is cool and who isn’t. Also, don’t be worrying if your naturally quiet. Just concentrate on spending time with people who’s company is enjoyable, people who you can talk to and who accept you as u are and get on with it. Real friends are the ones who you can form connections with. Be more open about people and give everyone a chance because you’d be surprised how people change once you really get to know them.