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I lost a love probably long before I was aware of it.

Yet, I keep obsessing over him, contacting him by email, letters. I even moved and still contact him. He never contacts me. He never said it was over. I’ve got no closure and I’ve asked for it, but don’t get it from him. This just aggravates my obsession with him. I’ve tried everything I know to do to get over this guy. In reality he has very few redeeming qualities. Just the fact that I lost him and miss him keeps me hanging on. HELP!

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Katiebug637 offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

I know how to it feels =/ im in the same shoes …

Try your best to do things for you, things that makes you happy. Don’t let yourself think of him. What do you really like? Maybe start collecting something..

I don’t know, just stop emailing him and contacting him. If he wants to contact you he would’ve tried to also or at least replied to yours…
I think you need to move on and try not to look back. You will think of him less and less everyday.

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veg_head offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

I’m sorry he isn’t going to step up and be frank with you, maybe he is enjoying the attention. Try your best to forget about him, he sounds like he will only bring you pain.

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kitt e offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 35 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

I bet he’s not giving any closure because you’re his ego booster. If he cared at all, he wouldn’t be putting you through this kind of annoying stress. You need to find a way to keep yourself from contacting him. Any time you sit down to write a message or anything, ask yourself “why!?” ..because I bet you don’t have a good reason. There’s no need to wait for his offer of closure, he doesn’t know how apparently. Maybe he thinks he has given you closure. Just let him go. You’ve got better things waiting for you.

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stuck offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (45 minutes after post)

yeah i went through this a few months ago my ex dumped me by text blocked my number 3 months later unblocked it messed with my head some more he never gave me a reason why he ended it. I was really hung up on it i thought he still wanted me in a someways cause he would not say he did not love me or give me closer etc but seriously hun save yourself alot of heartache and leave it if he wanted you he would be trying to be with you. We think men r more complicated then they are actually are if he wanted you just like my ex he would be with you

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (3 weeks, 3 days after post)

Ack i know just how you feel. I’ve wasted a year pining away over this guy just to be stubborn because people were pissing on the relationship before it even started and telling me what to do and it pissed me off. i loved him and i thought we were gonna run away and have a future together. But when he finally confessed he loved me, i couldn’t do it. I let him go. I hate that my story sounds lame!!! I guess it wasn’t all my fault though, he did have some relationship issues of his own. And i guess there were too many other factors involved and the love really wasn’t all about us, it became ABOUT the extraneous ****. All i know is every day i think about the relationship and it’ll be two years this summer since we met. I want to move on, but yet there isn’t much to move onTO at this point in my life, and i guess that’s my biggest problem.

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