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Ah, decisions . . . life is about decisions . . . and their consequences. THAT is the essence of existentialism.

But there is something else to consider, something I have learned. When your most fundamental underpinnings are torn loose through some traumatic event or events, your ability to make logical, sound decisions often goes down the drain. Nowhere is this effect more apparent than in relationships.

The person whose spouse cheats on him or her, the person who is facing bankruptcy, the person who cannot find a job no matter how hard he or she tries . . . this person may look perfectly normal on the outside, but on the inside is a soul in turmoil . . . and in torment. A person in this state may be trying to make a decision, but he or she is in decision-making gridlock . . . each and every alternative seems to be a “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” kind of choice.

So, when you are talking with a friend who has been going through a really tough time, remember that decisions do not come easily for such a person. Be patient, and help him or her all you can. You can find yourself in such a position much faster than you can possibly comprehend.

See what you mean and i think it`s great if u really use it in your life. It is a kind of recipy for living a life without too much trouble in the mind. Too bad we are more likely to do the opposite. I sometimes wonder if the reason for beeing here really exists. Then there is a reason for feeling like crap and you should embrase it. Don`t really know. Everything that happens has a cause. Well thats just common sense. We don`t just instantly appear on the face of the earth. Everybody knows that. Some people actually end up feeling down just because they ask themselves why all the time. Instead of accepting and moving on we analyze and twist the mind to the edge.

good article…

Great post PaDle, you make a great point. Just do it, if it’s wrong do something else, make a U-turn, the point is to always move forward, right? Good job.. :)

It`s always good to take care of oneself first. Still we need to remember that we exist with other individuals and if you just run carefree through to achieve your own goals you might end up in a place you don`t want to be.

Remember: You cannot change what you are but who you are changes all the time.

Don`t need to sacrifice yourself to think about others and care.

I admire you for that. I try to do the same but lately i`ve been isolating myself instead of standing up for myself. Guess it all will change. People like u are trully an inspiration.

Such a long story. I`m a pessimist an a perfectionist for starters. No self esteem and i have social issues. Don`t handle people wery well. I`ve been shutting down my life gradually in the last ten years. Now it`s come to be serious. I cannot work but i have gone to the doctor and asked for help. Guess i will get out of it with a lot of work. I just didn`t want to admit that i had a problem..

These days i just sit in my house and think a whole lot. I sit up and think until the brain gets exhausted. Then i sleep. And so on…

Have some friends yes. Dropped out of the social scene about a year ago. I had a huge number of friends before but i managed to get rid of them all. The worst part is i have done this at my own will. I wanted to change real bad and get out of the patterns that made me feel bad. All i managed was to feel worse. I seem to screw up anything i put my hands in. Kinda strange actually. Find it kinda irinoc and i laugh a lot about it. I see myself as an entertainer playing the lead role in a sit com for God himself…

PaDle.. the first rule of self is “Honor thyself above all others” the second is “to thine own self be true”, it seems you’re learning these lessons and it can be a thing that frees the soul.

Well. I do a whole lot of thinking on a daily basis. I think about everything. And with everything i mean everything. I analyze everything. It`s kinda hard to do that all the time because it takes a lot of energy..

I haven`t figured out the real reason for pushing everyone away. Think i needed some time by myself. There where almost no time at all i had to be alone. Nowadays i have to much. What i didn`t realize earlier was the need for balance. I`ve been thinking on this fore some years now and i seem to understand just a little more each day. I`ve locked away a lot of emotions and to fight with them all the time drains my energy. I guess i`m where i`m at because i just can`t handle the load anymore. I need to clean up in my mind and start piecing my life correctly together. Just need to rip it all apart first.

I`m on it actually. Is in a line for therapy. Need a little guidance on my way. Just need that gentle push in the right direction. I know i have to walk the walk by myself. No problem. But lost in the desert with no directions i end up walking in circles…

great post! I love the quote I read somewhere, “There are no wrong decisions, only decisions with undesirable outcomes.” Life is what we make it and there’s no point in regretting the past, only learning from the mistakes we make.

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