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cuz we are a society bred to be needy… but don’t get too bent out of shape… your human too…

this is a help site so people that seek help come so people that are unhappy come here for an escape thats why it seems so common.

I pretty much agree with the post. Personally, I believe that no matter how bad a day is, when everything seems wrong, you still have to find something to be happy for, no matter how small, the sun comming up and still alive to enjoy it. Life is too short, way TOO short, and we should take every single opprotunity we have to enjoy it. We should stop concentrating of what makes us sad, angry or upset and concentrate more on the good in our lives, be thankful that we can wake up and have the strength to get out of bed. One day, something terrible may happen and we won’t get to enjoy what we have now, that’s why every moment counts.

what does it take to be happy and content… psychologically, one would say that to be content we need a healthy balance of tension and relaxation. To be happy we need commitment or purpose.
As you were saying about the Philippines, the tension they receive from living in a 3rd world country gives them a purpose and sense of meaning that a lot of western countries struggle to find because they have everything feed to them on a silver spoon.

Mas 1st wrote:
I think the clue might be in the name of the site. Help.com is here to help people who are looking for help on any subject or question. That includes the people you actually are judging (whether you think it or not) suicidal people can live under bridges but they can also inhabit mansions and palaces. Depression, cutting, suicide and pain cover all mankind and dont leave out any social groups. You should count yourself lucky that you have never been suicidal like them - it must be a very dark place to be. The people of this site just try and support and bring some hope back for them. - Mas - moderator

yes mas but it perfectly be thankful you havent felt suicidal im so happynow but ive been there and it is terrible its possibly the worst thing ive ever been through its like im stuck in a dark ditch and i cant get out no matter how much i try. your always miserable and you should be sooo thankful trust me it pains me to even really think about my life then i wasnt even myself.

okei! wrote:

Neutra wrote:
I pretty much agree with the post. Personally, I believe that no matter how bad a day is, when everything seems wrong, you still have to find something to be happy for, no matter how small, the sun comming up and still alive to enjoy it. Life is too short, way TOO short, and we should take every single opprotunity we have to enjoy it. We should stop concentrating of what makes us sad, angry or upset and concentrate more on the good in our lives, be thankful that we can wake up and have the strength to get out of bed. One day, something terrible may happen and we won’t get to enjoy what we have now, that’s why every moment counts.

thanks! you are getting my point. like i said life may not be a bed of roses, but why make it a living hell

some people cant help it. trust me if you understood you would get why someone wouldnt want something so painful. i live in fear everday that the happiness i feel will be ripped away from me.

Mas 1st wrote:
Unfortunately for some Neutra they do not have the luxury of choosing to be happy, same as they did not choose to become depressed. They really cant pull their socks up / put a smile on their face - they are ill. - Mas

But they can though, for example if someone were to do something bad towards them they have the option of staying bitter or moving on, and even wishing the person who did them wrong the best of luck. Like I said, it dosen’t have to be something big, just the small stuff counts. And ill people especially, these are the exact type of people that do understand. They are the ones that appreciate all that they can do, like someone who had something amputated, they are greatful for having just one limb to use instead of no limbs at all. And similarly someone who looses an eye for example, they still have one that still works, it may not be as good as two but at least they can still see. terminally ill people use the time that they have left to live life to it’s fullest.

I know it is hard for some people at times, I understand, similar stuff happened to me at one point. All im saying is, we should be th deciding factor of how we feel at the end of the day, find something to be happy for.

i hold resentment toward my mother the one who birthed me. however shes abused me emotionally and physically she tried to put her own pain onto me and when i was at my wits end when i was scared and depressed i asked for help and she ignored it. now i try to move on and forgive her i try with all my heart but the anger always returns the anger that i have for her causing me the worst time of my life days where i spent miserable and not knowing a way out and wanting help but i couldnt get it. now you tell me to move on well ive tried and i still try and yet i still cant. i used to cut and yes i made that decision and i hit a point where i was addicted i was able to stop but for some people they dont have the energy to do that. people cant help depression it happens and it doesnt matter what race, age, social class, or where your from no one wants that pain but it happens.

There are people who do have alot, but still can’t find happiness even when they do get more. And yet, there are people who are dirt poor that couldn’t be happier, always having a smile on their face. But sometimes it’s the opposite, happy people with alot and poor people who hate their lives. When you think about it, there really dosen’t seem to be a right awnser because there are too many factors to be accounted for.

sometimes the pain becomes too much so ending their life is the only escape they feel they hav. after a while whenyour in so much pain you forget what its like to feel anything but negative. your numb and your mind sees everything in a negative view life just doesnt seem worth it. in the mind of someone who used feel suicidal if you wake up miserable and go to sleep miserable and your miserable all the time you lose the energy to function so you lose the motivation to get up anymore whats the point of living you pretty much are dead anyway a zombie walking through life. i barely remember what happened during this time period of my life i just remember misery its all a fog but i wasnt right in the head i know that. i didnt feel alive and i just wanted it to end.

We all have the same right to end our life or not to ,I think,no matter how much different we suffer. No body can tell what exactly others feel. We have different things and live in different condition and we feel differently about different situations. It’s just all of us don’t want to see people end their lives. Life is such a marvellous thing.

Not sure if this is getting off subject, but also some people do choose to not do what’s right, even when they can make the right decision. There are people who can make a big impact but choose not to all for small stuff, either they don’t feel like it, are scared and may feel silly, or just see other people do the wrong thing.

Personally, I think we should all do the right thing as much as possible, whether it be as mas said and try to help those who are mentally ill, lend a hand to those on the street, as give them money or food, or whatever else the right choice is, we should all do what we can, as it’s our responsibility as humans.

most people that commit suicide dont actually want to die they just dont want to live if the life they live in is miserable. its because people in society dont accept suicide if they did then there would be less cases of suicide because people would seek help more. but there is a lot of judgement in this world unfortunatly and so more lives are lost.

We feel deep inside us that we should not commit suiside .But sometimes we just want to . What on earth is the right thing to do?

okei! wrote:
Why does people talk about it all the time here. Cutting their wrists/ suicide/ ending their miserable life, etc.etc.

It’s a way they’ve learned to be, they don’t know any better, and occasionally it pays off in the caring empathy and/or wisdom they need.

That’s my best guess.

okei! wrote:
i am not blaming, judging whoever, whatever. we may end this chat now really if u think i may be impatient/ insensitive to them. and i can never give “tough love” to someone idk. you care, yes. but love, maybe not. love connotes deeper meaning.

some says they have the will, some says they don’t. and yah maybe, to each his own. it is understandable and i respect that. i am just ranting, thinking out loud. this is help.com and help is not to be given/ expected in an exact package

Nothing you have sounds or appears judgemental in any way!
You are simply making inquiries into why some people are unhappy, and why they cut themselves!

well, for some people, money is what makes them happy. for some, it maybe good spouse. Me, I am happy the way I am, although I have so many challenges from my husband, his family because I have not yet give them children. But one thing I know is that Only God can give you children and happiness. So, that does not mean I should kill myself. JUST HOLD ON TO GOD AND EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT!!!. PEACE TO YOU!