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strip club, or go on vacation, do something different but dont get crrazy

i never thought about the strip club - really? i’ve never been

it depends-if it’s not too blunt a question- what’s happened?

strip club? Yeah , but don’t fall for it. It’s a new side to life, but it’s not going to get you self confidence long term.

Try going for a walk-about?

why???

go skydiving, do somthing dare-devilish, and go crazy for about a week…

near death experiences are sometimes just what you need.

Please give us some more information. What caused you to lose your confidence my friend?

Having gone thru a recent divorce, can relate with your pain. We take one day at a time and enjoy the best we can. Try to stay away from drama, if possible. Slowly, you come back to life. Just takes time and patience my friend.

I would suggest you go into yourself and find again those things about yourself that you are especially proud of. Make a list of them and repeat it like a mantra. Explore your many gifts that you may have put on the back burner and get to know your self again. Many of us go through this and come out all the better for it with strength and an understanding of ourselves that wasn’t there before. I believe everything happens for a reason. Try to suss out the positives in your experiences and it will become a habit that propels you to look at the brighter side more often. Best of luck :)

First your self confidence is NOT gone it is just as you say, beaten down. If the beating has stopped (and that includes the amount that you beat yourself!) then it will come back on it’s own in time. There are things you might do or groups you might join to help this process but that is based on you as a person.

Start with forgiveness. This is the quickest way to ‘recover’ many things.

Bright blessings ~ Richard